Male of honor?

Dferrari17

So... kind of an odd question. I'm not a normal girl. I've been a tom boy my entire life; played football in high school, worked on cars... the whole nine yards. Because of this I've never gotten along horribly well with other girls. I have some friends that are girls, but my best friends in the entire world are all guys. I was talking to my best friend and he volunteered to be my "Male of Honor." Is this WAY too weird.... or is anyone else having this same problem? Should I just bypass the entire maid of honor issue by not having one?

stina93446

Yes, you can have a man of honor. Nothing wrong with it. Also, your FI can have girls on his side if he has close chick friends.

blackfire5th

It is extremely common to have mixed gender sides now a days.  Go for it.  I would call him your "Man of Honor" rather than "Male of honor."

trix1223

This is no longer new or even unique.  At least 8 years ago my friend had her brother as her Honor Attendant.  And more and more mixed gender sides and asymmetrical sides are the make-up of WPs.

I prefer Honor Attendant to Male of Honor as a title.

gottahavashorti

Male of Honor sounds kind of odd but there's nothing wrong with having a guy as your Man of Honor/Honor Attendant - or an all male bridal party if you wish.

mbcdefg

I've seen male bridal attendants, and female groom's attendants, on this website a TON of times (ditto for uneven bridal parties). You would absolutely not be the first or last person to have a man as your Honor Attendant.

Also check out offbeatbride.com, since a lot of people there have mixed-gender and uneven bridal parties as well.

Plenty of women get along better with men, or have few close girlfriends. I'm like that myself. I think you're more "normal" than you think.

HiddenPaw

I'm having an "honor attendant" as well. He's a childhood friend and I couldn't imagine not having him involved.  I thought about calling him the "Man of Honor" but I was thinking that might not be appropriate... isn't the groom the man of honor?  But that's just preference on my part.  I'm a big fan of the "it's your wedding, you can do what you want" mentality, as far as adhering to "traditions" goes.  So honor attendant, man of honor, bridesman, it's your choice!

lalap69

Why would it be weird?  If he's the person that's closest to you, he should be your honour attendant.  (You'll save yourself a lot of grief by referring to them as attendants rather than specifying everyone's gender.)

bablingbrooke

It's very common and I think it's a lovely idea.

aerinpegadrak

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_male-of-honor?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:bbd8f31b-db82-49b2-8eb5-a03fc1ff3fd9Post:20a69b57-7f2d-4b4f-8f23-a5b93459763d">Re: Male of honor?</a>:
[QUOTE]I'm having my male best friend on my side in my wedding. <strong>We formally refer to him as the 'Butler of Honor' ... because a butler is a male version of a maid</strong>. I think it still sounds distinguished and makes him special but it keeps his title in the same verbage as the rest of the wedding party. It just flows better for me personally. Also, we are dressing him in the same tux as the groomsmen, but with a vest and tie that match the bridesmaids dresses. For example, the groomsmen will have tuxedos with blue vests, the bridesmaids will have purple dresses, and my butler of honor will have a tux with a purple vest. Your wedding is your day. It should be filled with the people you love and care about the most, not just a bunch of girls you kind of like because you are 'supposed' to have females on your side. I'm glad so many brides are allowing men on their side now.
Posted by CassieFJ26[/QUOTE]
Etymology fail.  The "maid" in bridesmaid is not short for maidservant.  It's short for "maiden", as in "unmarried woman."  There is and has never been any way, shape, or form in which the male equivalent would be a butler.

lalap69

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_male-of-honor?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:bbd8f31b-db82-49b2-8eb5-a03fc1ff3fd9Post:5c0331e7-78ab-4ea7-b9bc-973201b23e05">Re: Male of honor?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Male of honor? : I don't believe that your comment was necessary or at all helpful to the bride with the original question. I was just giving her another option for the verbage at her wedding. Butler of honor is a commonly used term for males on the bride's side, as I have seen it many times. Your rude comments do not belong on TheKnot.com. Please take your negative attitude elsewhere. Thank you.
Posted by CassieFJ26[/QUOTE]
1) This is a public message board.  Aerin didn't violate the TOS.  You don't get to tell her how she can post, nor do you get to kick her off the board.

2) Commonly used is a HUGE stretch.  Just because you've seen something a couple of times doesn't make it common.  And just because you like the sound of something doesn't make it right, nor does it mean that anyone else has to like it.

bablingbrooke

You do know your WP isn't there to serve you, right?  "Maid" = maiden, not maid to the bride.  I hope we saved this bride-to-be from further humiliating herself toward her WP by basically telling them they exist to serve her.  I know I'd want that malaprop pointed out to me ASAP before it came back to haunt me.

aerinpegadrak

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_male-of-honor?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:bbd8f31b-db82-49b2-8eb5-a03fc1ff3fd9Post:0e6be3c5-2747-43cb-9bb0-8aaccdeca954">Re: Male of honor?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Male of honor? : Wouldn't it be Bachelor of Honor instead?
Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]
Actually, it probably would.  Unless the dude is married, then I don't know.