When I first got engaged, my Grandmother asked me, right in front of my Aunt if I planned on making my Aunt my MOH since I was the MOH in her wedding. This is where is all began...
Over time it was never really brought up, however I always remembered what she said and figured since my Aunt and I were close I would formally ask her. She accepted, but never really wanted to be bothered with wedding things so I just ignored it and stopped asking her opinions on things wedding related.
I had finally chosen the bridesmaid dresses after I had talked with each bridesmaid about their budget, and most were excited when I sent the group text but my MOH never responded. Instead I received a phone call from my grandmother yelling at me about how I chose a way too expensive dress my MOH couldn't afford and I need to change the dresses "now". I let her know I was not going to change the dresses and no one had an issue with them. Long story short I texted my Aunt/MOH and let her know that I want her in my wedding and I would pay for her BM dress ( I didn't word it like that, but you get the point), still no response.
During the pre-election her husband a hard core republican started posting non-stop Romney posts, I just ignored it, no big deal. I posted one thing about Obama and how I supported him, and her husband started calling me names, saying I was a stupid hippy and a dumb ass. Okay, fine I ignored it again. Then, all of a sudden my Aunt who I had been super close with for years turned into a I'm going to shove my beliefs in your face and if you're not republican you suck type of person, which I thought was weird but I figured she wanted to stand by her husband and I can respect that.
Here is where she drops out...
I was talking to my grandmother on the phone and was I told her about my MOHs husband calling me names in a nonchalant way. Next thing I know my phone is blowing up from my aunt and her husband telling me I'm a taddle tail and continue with the name calling, I only responded to my aunt after she said she was out of the wedding. That hurt my feelings more than any name calling because we were brought up as sisters, we lived in the same house, we were really close. Now I don't even know who she is, and I don't want to put the blame on her husband but I feel like a large part of it is because of him. Now I'm scared they wont let their 3 year old daughter be my flower girl ( she is my world.) So that's pretty upsetting.
All and all I just don't know what to do, I want to talk it out with her she is my family but I just don't know how. I really hope she had a better reason to remove herself from the wedding then politics or her husbands influence.
Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated!