WWYD?

mgietler76

So FI and I went to a holiday party a few days ago, where we found out his cousin is engaged (this being his 4th engagement)

We were never introduced to his FI, but he is invited to the wedding. I want to address the invite with her name, FI's family insists to put "and guest" since this isn't his first engagement and this one probably won't last either.

I feel like that's a crappy thing to do since we KNOW they are engaged. I don't know her name and am getting some crap about just dropping it.

bablingbrooke

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[QUOTE]So FI and I went to a holiday party a few days ago, where we found out his cousin is engaged (this being his 4th engagement) We were never introduced to his FI, but he is invited to the wedding. I want to address the invite with her name, FI's family insists to put "and guest" since this isn't his first engagement and this one probably won't last either. I feel like that's a crappy thing to do since we KNOW they are engaged. I don't know her name and am getting some crap about just dropping it.
Posted by mgietler76[/QUOTE]
Be the adult.  How would you feel if someone "and guest"-ed your FI?  This is neither the time nor the place to make a big statement about his track record.  If she doesn't last to the wedding, consider it one less person you'll have to pay for.

stina93446

Your FI's family is wrong. You should never be rude. If you have the ability to get the name, whether it be looking up a facebook account, calling your cousin, or asking his mom, it's not THAT hard to get someone's name. And who cares how many wives he's had. My uncle is on his 5th wife, and we still call her "aunt."

aerinpegadrak

My dad and stepmom separated pretty much the day after invitations went out.  When he told me, I told him that her name was on the invitation, but he could bring someone else instead.

I'd address her by name.  No one's going to hold you accountable for being able to predict the future, and if they do break up before your wedding, you can deal with it then.

mgietler76

Thanks for the input, I agree that her name needs to be on there. I called his aunt last night and got her name. I'm just glad we found out now because invites go out this week.

Manwaithiel

Lol.

This is a time for this conversation.

FI's family: "Just say and guest. God knows who the next flavor of the week is going to be."
You: "That's nice..." *addresses a direct invitation*

This also helps you out because it prevents cousin from being some random date/flavor of the week if he DOES break it off with this girl. Win, win.

LoveMuffins

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[QUOTE]Lol. This is a time for this conversation. FI's family: "Just say and guest. God knows who the next flavor of the week is going to be." You: "That's nice..." *addresses a direct invitation* This also helps you out because it prevents cousin from being some random date/flavor of the week if he DOES break it off with this girl. Win, win.
Posted by Manwaithiel[/QUOTE]

This. =)

lalap69

Manwa beat me to the punch.  That was exactly what I was going to say.