Role for sisters that are not bridesmaids?

Hollztastic

I've never liked the idea of HUGE wedding parties, so I picked my 3 best friends to be bridesmaids.  My fiance is having his brother as a groomsmen however, and now my two sisters, 39 and 40 (I'm 25) are complaining to my mom that they're not bridesmaids....sigh.  I love them and never wanted to offend them...

SO---what are some other ideas of having them participate in the wedding ceremony? No 'guestbook attendants', but something creative and fun!  One idea was to ask one of them to be the witness when we sign our marriage certificate...

Ideas???

suz62984

witness could be good but it isn't really "part" of the wedding so they still might complain. What about doing a reading or two?

suz62984

PS - just because they are your sisters and they are complaining to mom doesn't mean you HAVE to include them. Being family doesn't give you an atuomatic WP pass.

EMF9903

My fiance is one of 6 and we wanted a small wedding party so we are having 2 of his sisters do readings and one of his brothers play the piano at the ceremony because he is WONDERFUL at it and it was a nice way to include him (we didnt ask because we thought it would feel like a job but he wanted to so we were thrilled) his other brother is in the wedding and one sister isnt coming.  Im not very creative on how to get them involved but it was important to us so this worked for us.

girl2bewed

A reading is probably the best idea, because anything else you assign them to help with might feel more like a job to them. If you aren't interested in making them guest book attendants or think its too beneath them then assigning them other jobs like cake cutting or something like that probably wont cut it.

sarabear23

I think you should assign them a JOB. Its your wedding, not work. They would probably like being a guest better than getting a pity job.

megk8oz

Readings are pretty much the only thing I can think of that isn't something you would pay somebody else to do.

If you're getting married in a Catholic Church, you can also have them bring up gifts.

If you were planning on doing a Unity Candle or Sand Ceremony, you can include them in that.

Otherwise, there is always the option of just adding them on as BMs at this point. Your sides don't need to be even, and your BMs aren't obligated to do anything aside from get the dress and show up wearing it, so it's not like they'd be "ruining" things (If that's what excluding them is about). Just ordered 2 more bouquets and it's done.

davis2cruz

My fiance has seven sisters (two full, five step)... and I have one myself.  This is what I'm doing:  my sister is the maid-of-honor, his two full sisters are bridesmaids... I didn't want eight bridal party members so two of the step sisters will be at the guest book (along with one of my cousins) and the other three will be ushers (along with another one of my cousins.)

I have heard that one of the step sisters (in particular) are kind of upset that she's not in the wedding -- she's closer to my age, so we're kind of friends too... but we cannot have everyone.  There is no rule stating that everyone needs to be involved, so don't feel bad about not having them.  It's your wedding, remember that.