wedding party (or not)

DavenAngie

My fiance was previously married and has two teenage sons. This is my first but because of family dynamics will not be traditional in any way (ex.  no daddy giving me away, no mother happily involved in everything, no-one helping with finances etc. etc) I am so okay with all of this, its not new to me, been this way since my childhood. Anyhow, I am not having a bridal party. My brother is giving me away and the 2 boys will be included in the ceremony, all my choice. So many people want to know how many bride-maids and what color will they wear....they always seem taken back when I say I am not having a bridal party. What gives? Isn't it my choice and why should it seem to bother others so much?

baystateapple

Just say "We're foregoing the typical bridal party.  Have you tried the bean dip?"  You are not required to have a bridal party.  Assure them that your marriage will be just as valid if you don't have girls in matching gowns standing next to you.

trix1223

My sister and BIL didn't have a wedding party, and it was just beautiful.  I thought it was very romantic with just the two of them together.

If people ask you, I'd answer "Really?  I won't be legally married without a WP?"  And then, as baystate said, beandip 'em until they stop.

Good luck, and congratulations.

blackfire5th

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_wedding-party-not?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:c6cdf632-8368-4f18-8eee-d72d44f3b888Post:43bd8c60-3017-482f-be6a-60929646ceee">wedding party (or not)</a>:
[QUOTE] will not be traditional in any way (ex.  no daddy giving me away, no mother happily involved in everything, no-one helping with finances etc. etc) 
Posted by DavenAngie[/QUOTE]

<div>Ditto PP, just state you are choosing not to have one and bean dip away.</div><div>
</div><div>Also, all the things you stated about why your wedding isn't traditional is really the norm today.</div>