Things that make you go AAAHHHHHHHHH.

CTGirl30

I might have to scream (out loud, not just in my head) if I hear one more bride use the term "it's my special day" as justification for or in reference to why they feel it's okay to treat friends / family like crap.

emilyinchile

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[QUOTE]This.  When followed by the justification "weddings are expensive" or "because I don't want people getting drunk."
Posted by gottahavashorti[/QUOTE]

Ahhh, yes. I'm not planning on getting sloppy at your wedding no matter what, and if I have to pay for it I'll still drink. I'll just be angry and leave earlier instead of being a happy drunk who parties all night :)

emilykathleen511

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[QUOTE]Oh, and I have one more to add:  Every time a bride is told that she is not the center of the universe because she has a ring on her finger, that just because it's "her day" doesn't mean she can do whatever she wants, and that it's not okay to trample over friends and family because you can get away with it, someone pipes up that "these other 'ladies' are so rude--don't listen to them, hunnie, you do whatever you want, it's your day!"   UGH!
Posted by bablingbrooke[/QUOTE]

<div>Oh, this one really gets me. They sound just like that too.</div>

trix1223

I think a lot of it is the Valentine's Day newbs, because I'm looking a post counts for mnay.  I hope that they'll listen with open minds and take to heart what's written.

 I know it's hard to have what you think are brilliant ideas shot down, but I really admire the girls who come back and say "Thanks for the wake-up call.  You're right. I'm over-reacting/over-thinking/being dramatic.... etc."

 It makes me feel good to know we've maybe helped someone look at their planning more realistically.

JohnsonIn10

I agree totally!  I know I never post but I had to say something on this one!  Other people keep saying that it is "my special day"  I always think why would you say that?  First of all the day is not mine.  The day is a celebration for everyone to enjoy in.  Yes I am getting married but so is my FI.  That being said if people must use that phrase it should be "Our Special Day"!  Not that I really like that either!

SarahPLiz

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[QUOTE] Play the damn chicken dance for your grandpa.  Seriously.
Posted by Joy2611[/QUOTE]

Exactly, Joy!

bablingbrooke

I think it's easy to overthink/over-excite because so many movies, TV shows, and magazines make you think you HAVE to be stressed, like you're not doing it right if you aren't stressed while wedding planning.  It really is only as stressful as you make it, but I think brides think they're missing out on something if they aren't freaking out and need someone to hold their hands through this?

In the end everyone wants the same thing: a wonderful, perfect wedding.  What I have learned (and I had an inkling this was true before I got married, though I didn't fully believe it) is that the wedding is perfect no matter what happens.  As soon as I saw DH, nothing, but NOTHING, could bring me down.  I'm sure I'm not the only one.  So I think it's so silly to be fretting about this stuff, which is why I give the advice I give, because I know they're going to feel very silly when it's all over and you never want to put yourself in a situation where you're apologizing for your wedding.  You want to be in a position where people are thanking YOU for being a part of the wedding, whether as a guest or member of the WP.

mandybear7

I can't stand when people misspell or misuse "fiance." HE is not your "finance" nor is he your "fiancee."

megk8oz

I'm sick of "I want your opinion on x"

Then when 9 out of 10 posters say "Bad idea/rude/trust me, there's a better way":

"You're right, Knottie who said I should do what I want. As for the rest of you:
Wow, you're all a bunch of nasty bitches. Didn't anybody ever teach any of you how to be polite? If you don't have something nice to say, don't say anything at all!"


Which, I must also add that I might have to hunt down and shoot the next girl that says "I want your opinion" and then closes the OP with "Please, don't respond if you're going to be negative. Kthx!"

gottahavashorti

"You don't know me."

It makes me think of that Avril Lavigne song, and I'm not an Avril fan.

megk8oz

"Whenever I was BM for my friends, I totally loved stuffing envelopes and taking 3 days off from work to help her decide what shade of blue the M&Ms in the favors should be. I guess I'm just a better friend than the rest of you."

"No wonder your BMs didn't help you, you're mean".

"Well, that may have been fine for your wedding, but ..."

gottahavashorti

Delete attempts where the title and/or text is changed to "deleted."  If it's deleted, why is the now edited post still there?

Edit: I guess that's not really an AAAHHHHH but it always bothers me because I think "no it's not."

stefani103

But it is MY day. No one elses. All you other ladies that think you're getting married on that day, BACK OFF. I'll share the day with FI if he is good. Otherwise, who needs a bridal party and groom? I'll just stand up there by myself. Everyone can bask in the glory that is ME.

Seriously, I've shared plenty of stupid/tacky ideas on the knot, mostly because my family is a bunch of red necks who I do love dearly, but aren't ones for tradition and etiquette. I have the wonderful family and friends who would let me be bridezilla if I wanted, so it's nice having a place to go and be given honest answers. No one makes you sign up and post on the boards.

duckie1905

but IT IS MY SPAYSHUL DAY!

Sadly, I am dealing with a bride like this in my life right now.  I want to rip her eyelashes out.

stina93446

I really like reading the bewbie posts and then quoting them. I bet they feel real stupid when they try to delete their post and see that "OMG" you can't change other people's posts.

emilykathleen511

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[QUOTE]but IT IS MY SPAYSHUL DAY! Sadly, I am dealing with a bride like this in my life right now.  <strong>I want to rip her eyelashes out.
</strong>Posted by duckie1905[/QUOTE]

I'm currently picturing what it would look like to rip someone's eyelashes out.

stina93446

I would prefer to pluck out the eyelashes one by one.....

megk8oz

Some beebee on CC did one of those "Why don't you bitter old married hags go to The Nest already?" posts, and one of the reasons she wanted us to leave was "And I hate those girls that make an entire post just quoting the OP so she can't change it later. Maybe she wants to edit her words, and instead you people just want make her look bad! And you think the brides are 'being rude'?".

baystateapple

I'm really sad I missed this, but I want to add the quintessential:

Bride: "I need some advice, is (insert horrible idea here) tacky?"

Everyone Else: "Yes, that is a terrible idea."

Bride: "Wow, there are so many MARRIED women on a site that's only for BRIDES.  Why is that?  Is it because you're all so UNHAPPILY MARRIED and can't move on with your lives?  HOW PATHETIC!!!!!111!!!1!"

aerinpegadrak

Yeah, I think it's really sad that some women are so insecure, either in themselves or their relationship, that they have such a problem with the whole strip club thing.  FI and I have a mutual rule of "look, but don't touch."  If I didn't trust him to stick to that, marriage would never have been on the table.  Simple as that.

trix1223

Everytime I read a post that has, anywhere in it, "It's your day" I now immediately check the post count.  Yep, virtually every time it's under 20.

duckie1905

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[QUOTE]Everytime I read a post that has, anywhere in it, "It's your day" I now immediately check the post count.  Yep, virtually every time it's under 20.
Posted by trix1223[/QUOTE]

<div>This especially bothers me when the OP is only looking for validation and instead of listening to the gazillion good responses from posters with some smarts they listen to the poster with 3 responses and the lone dissenter in the crowd.</div><div>
</div><div>I want to shake the stupidity out of them.</div>

bablingbrooke

They're usually the same girls who approach wedding planning like they're preparing for battle.  I will never, ever understand that mentality. 

trix1223

But, but, but you NEED to rally the troops....have your support system in place.....prepare for battle.....don't you?  Because after all, planning a party is soooooooo stressful!

megk8oz

Don't forget, ladies, "we should all stick together here".

Gag me ... maybe something was severely wrong with me, but I was very "independent" on the planning front. I don't even think it was because my sisters wanted to be "hands off", like I really just didn't want to have envelope stuffing parties, or 6 people with me when I went dress shopping ...

Although, I will admit, I'm very easily swayed by other people's opinions and I tend to believe in the "Too many cooks ..." philosophy. I figured the less people I involved with stuff, the less people I'd be trying to please.

banana468

I think someone said, "We're not in a war.  I don't need to "stick together" with you as you plan your wedding."

megk8oz

I forget who said it, but Aerin used to have it quoted in her sig. I thought it was the "most awesome thing ever", lol.