Pregnant Bridesmaid

mintycj

One of my bridesmaids just told me she is pregnant. She will be 7 months pregmant at the wedding. She told me the news crying, very upset and said that she would understand if I didnt want her in the wedding.  I see nohting wrong with her being 7 months pregnant. Other people think that it will be an issue. I dont understand why it would be an issue. Being pregnant is a beautiful thing! The dresses are flowy too, not form fitting. what do you think?

jagore08

I think your BM is hormonal.  

bralyn

True. And many bridezillas get mad at pregnant bridesmaids because they "ruin" the conformity of weddings. she has probably heard horror stories. Just explain to her that you are honored to have her in your wedding and that her pregnancy is a beautiful thing in her life not an inconvenience in your wedding look.

SarahPLiz

Support her in the pregnancy and reaffirm your love for her and that you want her in the BP. There is nothing wrong with a PG BM.

jeannigirl

Its not an issue there are just those bridezillas who want everything to look perfect. I remember I was a MOH at one of my friends wedding and I was so totally pregnant and I was honored that she wanted me to stand beside her.

Just tell her that of course you want her still has a BM. She will be cute has anything.

like_fireworks

There is nothing wrong with a pregnant bridesmaid. See if your current dresses will still work when she is seven months along and if not, you could offer to help her find an empire waisted dress in your wedding colors.

gottahavashorti

Unfortunately, not all brides are that level headed and she has probably heard as much. 

Reassure her that you're excited about her pregnancy and that unless is uncomfortable standing, she will be standing up with you.  If she's not comfortable standing, she will be sitting in the front row during the ceremony.  Accomodations may have to be made for her dress, but that's no biggie.

SocialWorker2B

I think, as pp do, that she thinks you will not her in the WP because it would 'ruin' your wedding day look.

Major kudos to you for not getting mad and seeing this as the beautiful thing that it is. :-)

My friend who has a pregnant BM told me she was more than relieved that she would have had the baby by the time the wedding came around. As her MOH, I was shocked to hear that. And, quite frankly, I am a bit scared to get PG now myself. :-(

Just keep reassuring her that you are beyond excited for her and can't wait to share this exciting time with her. She will most likely insecure as the pregnancy goes on so make sure to reassure her she is beautiful in her BM dress as ever. I know that would be one of my major insecurities if I was in that situation! :-)

swim1011

Thank you for having a normal reaction, unlike the girl on Moms and Maids board:

http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_pregnant-maid-of-honor

Tell her you love her, baby bump and all, and you can't wait for both of them to be a part of your wedding. Also, that you're super excited for her (although I'm sure you already told her that part.)

mbcdefg

Tell her that you're excited to get to be able to take a cute photo like this!

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And kudos for being a good friend

CTGirl30

You sound like a wonderful friend! I'm betting she's worried since, unfortunately, some brides aren't so concerned with being a supportive friend and are more worried about their Wedding Day then their friendships and the feelings of the people they asked to be part of their wedding.

One of my BMs will be 8 months preggo with twins on my wedding day (her first pregnancy). We're totally playing it by ear and we're going to do whatever we can to ensure her comfort on the day - if she's even able to be there (knock on wood) and not, say, on bedrest at that point or anythign. Bottom line, she is one of my best friends in the world and I would never dream of asking her to step down or not be involved in my wedding simply because she's pregnant.

I wish more girls had your supportive attitude! Ensure your friend you love her and can't wait for her to be standing by your side (or sitting in the front row if she's more comfortable with that option!) on your wedding day. You can work with the dresses - either in a bigger size or maternity style, too.

bablingbrooke

Many brides don't want PG BMs for such ridiculous reasons as the BM taking attention away to her standing out too much to the dresses not matching up exactly.  You've got the right attitude.  She sounds a bit hormonal.  Just keep being the good friend that you are and she'll settle down.

whitney_15545

I guess I am a bad person because of this...

  My fiance's sister is pregnant and is due 1 1/2 months before the wedding, actually she is due on the day that my bridal shower was scheduled to be on.  I'm extremely happy that her and her husband are having a child but at the same time I'm aggravated.... #1  I have had some heath problems and I'm scared to death that I won't be able to have children (and that's definitely been my lifelong goal!) #2  When she was getting married her future sister in law was pregnant and she said "she stole all her thunder" and complained about it the entire time but at least in her case, she didnt have the baby until 2 months after the wedding. (Problem #3-it seems as if she is the only child because my fiance is such a black sheep in his family so the focus has always been on her) #4  My fiance's sister is actually married to my 3rd cousin (strange I know) so some of the people will be interested in both things.  Which creates #5 because I have to reschedule my bridal shower because I want to have it before she has the baby because I don't want the focus to be the 2 day old baby (I know, thats a litttle mean).  #6 Some people will be invited to both showers and I don't want them to come to a baby shower one week and two weeks later come to my bridal shower!  #7   We weren't having ANY kids at the wedding or reception (because of all the problems at her wedding), and she even said, well I better not have any kids cause I know they can't come to your wedding! And now I know that we are going to have to make an exception. 

I'm so happy about them having a baby, it's just aweful timing, I would be much happier if she was super pregnant at the wedding considering she is a bridesmaid and her husband is a groomsman.  If their baby doesn't come, they will stay for 2 minutes, if the baby does come, they'll stay for 5 minutes and will have to leave because its too loud.  There is nothing for me to do, I just need to vent about it because timing completely stinks!!!