Number of Bridesmaids

Melox

Hola everybody im having a problem with my bridesmaids number ive 4 girls that i am having then ive a further 9 that i cant narrow down like i could abit but i'd still end up with like 9/10 maybe just wondering what you all consider would be the limit? or too many? gracias x

banana468

Keep in mind that there's a cost to you for the BMs.  You need to feed them at the RD with their dates/partners, buy them presents and they generally have flowers that they carry.

IMO, more than 6 on each side can look a little too big but that doesn't mean there's something wrong a big BP as long as each and every person is treated well.

SarahPLiz

I think its up to you to decide what fits your budget and your ceremony space. In my experience, the more BMs you have, the more potential drama there is, especially when trying to coordinate schedules, etc. That being said, it is also an honor to be a guest at a wedding.
If you chose 4 people right from the jump, and then have to choose between 9 or 10 more, then I think that means you are closest to the 4 you chose first. There is no reason to include any of the others in the wedding party, as they can all be guests. Your WP should consist of those you are closest to and couldn't imagine NOT having standing right next to you when you get married.

emilyinchile

Ditto Sarah. I could have added other people I consider very close friends, but the 4 I have are my bestest, cannot imagine getting married without them friends.

If you decide you want to add more people, I think how it looks depends on how many guests you have. 50 guests and 15 BMs? There's just no way that isn't ridiculous in my mind. Anything more than about 7 to me seems like a LOT, but you should really choose based on friendships. If you love 10 girls equally, you shouldn't care if your guests think it's a little unusual.

megk8oz

I'm going to ditto all the PPs on this.

Personally, whenever I see more  than 5 or 6 on each side (And it's not the Duggar family where all 17 siblings where included), I automatically assume (Which yes, assuming is "wrong", but I'm just telling you what's going through my head), "So, really? They had 12 'absolute-bestest-friends-in-the-whole-wide-world' and had to ask every last one of them ... really?"

lilcassers

Go with your gut instinct. Sit back with a good beverage and think about each girl individually. Is she always there for you? Can you call her in most situations? Could you imagine your bridal party without her?

I used to be concerned with numbers because my FI has 8 guys he wants to ask so I was trying to think of more. I came to the conclusion that just because I have fun with ashley at the bar, doesn't mean she is the most dear friend to me.

HOWEVER, I do like to say that this is your wedding and will forever be thought of as the best day to spend with those you cherish. If you do have a friend that is an absolute blast then so be it, ask her. But in that instance, I may wait until 6 months prior to ask someone you are unsure of.

Good luck!

mrsamyjones

the answer is 7... done and done

no really all the pps have answered this sufficiently