One of my best friends is anti wedding party. She doesn't really see the point of more then a MOH. I think she has even more of a sour taste of it after she was required to be in her sister's wedding a year and a half ago.
However, she's one of my best friends and I would love for her to stand with me and honor her with being a BM, as she's one of my best friends and has been there for me. I know that if I ask her, she'll say yes to make me happy, but will probably be secretly (or not so secretly) unhappy.
I feel like she's thinks there's so much more to being a BM then just buying a dress and showing up the day of, because of what her mother and sister made her do for her sister's wedding.
I guess I know I should ask her and let her decide for herself if she wants to be involved. Should I talk to her before I offically ask and let her know it's okay to say no? Or just ask her and let her decide for herself?