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My future sister in law just found out she's pregnant and she's due three weeks before the wedding. What's the best option for bridesmaid dresses? I had planned on getting bridesmaid dresses from David's Bridal and they don't carry maturity dresses. I read online they suggest ordering 2 sizes larger than her normal size. This is her first child so she's not sure how her body will react. Any ideas?
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    Why not pick a color and length and let the ladies purchase their dresses in that category?  
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    DB carries some styles that are 'maternity friendly', with empire waists ect.  I'm having a potential similar situation with my sister and we are doing DB dresses as well.  They have lots of styles in each color, so the mom-to-be can wear the same color as the other girls, in a slightly different style!   As for size, i believe they sell off the rack as well, so worst case you can buy hers closer to the wedding.
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    Does she still want to be in it? I might think twice about having her in the wedding party, especially since due dates are more of "estimated guesses" rather than set dates, and first time moms are more often late than not, generally up to 2 weeks.
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    [QUOTE]Does she still want to be in it? I might think twice about having her in the wedding party, especially since due dates are more of "estimated guesses" rather than set dates, and first time moms are more often late than not, generally up to 2 weeks.
    Posted by Belle2Be[/QUOTE]

    That's bullshiit.  It's true - due dates are subjective.  The baby could be early or late, but you DON'T kick someone out of your wedding party because she's pregnant.  Unless you want to forever be known as "the bitch" in the family.  Trust me, I know.

    Since she doesn't know how her body will react, I would just wait until the wedding gets closer to choose a dress.  Or, you could ask her to just find a black dress that she feels beautiful in, and wear that.  No one will question why she's wearing black and the other girls are in color.
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    I would let her pick out a dress in the same color/length when she gets closer to the wedding.  My mom was in a wedding while 8 1/2 months pregnant with me and wore a maternity dress in the same color as the other BMs.  I've seen the photo and it looked really cute.

    And do ignore Belle's advice--pregnancy isn't something that should eliminate her from the WP if you really want her there (and especially if you've already asked her).  But the name of the game is to be flexible--babies have been known to arrive early and she may not be able to come; she may need to sit during the ceremony; you get the idea.  I have yet to hear of a bride who regretted going with the flow with regard to a pregnant BM, and I'm sure you'll be no different.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_bridesmaid-due-3-weeks-before-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:ccf70462-1595-4dbd-9cf5-3d75ee479626Post:bdf467f9-7684-4ed2-8195-491273d8e7f5">Re: Bridesmaid due 3 weeks before wedding</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bridesmaid due 3 weeks before wedding : That's bullshiit.  It's true - due dates are subjective.  The baby could be early or late, but you DON'T kick someone out of your wedding party because she's pregnant.  Unless you want to forever be known as "the bitch" in the family.  Trust me, I know. Since she doesn't know how her body will react, I would just wait until the wedding gets closer to choose a dress.  Or, you could ask her to just find a black dress that she feels beautiful in, and wear that.  No one will question why she's wearing black and the other girls are in color.
    Posted by tidetravel[/QUOTE]

    I didn't say kick her out, I said talk to her about it. Learn how to read.  Considering I've had 2 children, I know I wouldn't want to stand in a wedding 1 or 3 weeks after having a child, and if it is a C-Section recovery could easily be longer.
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    So let the BM make that decision.  It's not the bride's decision.  If she can't do it or doesn't want to, she'll say so.
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    [QUOTE]So let the BM make that decision.  It's not the bride's decision.  If she can't do it or doesn't want to, she'll say so.
    Posted by bablingbrooke[/QUOTE]

    I disagree that she'll sayif she wants out at this point, she might feel its rude or be afraid of starting drama or something, which is why I asked if she has talked to her SIL about it. I didn't say to kick her out, but to communicate about it. Just because you don't like my opinion doesn't make it any less valid.
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    I never said it wasn't valid.  You need to stop getting so defensive about these things.  

    No one's holding a gun to FSIL's head to make her be a BM.  There is no indication that she doesn't want to do it.  And the bride bringing this up is basically saying, "I want you out but I don't want to kick you out, so do me a favor and just back down."  It *always* comes across that way to the person on the receiving end.  So why on earth would you recommend to the bride that she put herself in that position?  She only asked what to do about dresses, not whether this gal should be in the wedding at all.  I didn't get the impression at *all* that that was an issue.
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    I'd talk to the people at David's Bridal about it. They've probably dealt with this situation before and can offer advice.

    You can suggest that she order an empire-waisted dress a couple sizes larger than her current size, and alter it if need be. She might also want to buy a matching shawl that a seamstress can use to add a belly panel if necessary.

    If nothing else, tell her to get a maternity dress in a color close to your wedding color scheme, or in a complementing neutral color (black, brown, silver) and maybe add a shawl or something in your wedding color to tie her into the other bridesmaids. The important thing is that she's there. A different dress will not ruin your photos or your wedding.

    The problem with asking her if she still wants to be a bridesmaid is that she might feel like it's the bride trying to get her to drop out. Even if she'd otherwise want to stand. So don't bring up the idea of her stepping down unless she says on her own that she might not be up to it. Even if you mean it with the best of intentions, asking her if she still wants to be a bridesmaid can make her self-conscious ("Gee, is this her way of hinting that she doesn't want me in her wedding anymore?") or offended ("Does she really think I'm stupid enough not to speak up if I'm not up to being a bridesmaid?").

    And if she says she'll be fine as your bridesmaid, but winds up needing to drop out close to the wedding ... so what? Cancel her bouquet with the florist, or have it sent to her at her home (or the hospital if she's having the baby) to cheer her up. Save her thank you gifts for her birthday or Christmas, or return/sell them, or give them to her anyway as a thank you for being a good friend. If you listed her name in the program and there's no time to edit it before your wedding, just leave it as-is ... the vast majority of guests will not notice, most people close to you will know her situation, and if anyone is clueless/rude enough to ask you where that bridesmaid is, you can reply, "She's having a baby and I'm so excited for her!"

    It's really, REALLY not a big deal.
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    edited October 2010
    Davids Bridal has a little pillow thing she can put on to see what size fits her best with the pillow. Also, they allow you to exchange a dress for a different size as long as you keep the tags on and original receipt.

    I hope this is actually the constructive help you were looking for instead of the catty comments above. Good luck.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_bridesmaid-due-3-weeks-before-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:ccf70462-1595-4dbd-9cf5-3d75ee479626Post:8cf23cde-945a-45db-8d81-73ccad0185f2">Re: Bridesmaid due 3 weeks before wedding</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bridesmaid due 3 weeks before wedding : I didn't say kick her out, I said talk to her about it. <strong>Learn how to read. </strong> Considering I've had 2 children, I know I wouldn't want to stand in a wedding 1 or 3 weeks after having a child, and if it is a C-Section recovery could easily be longer.
    Posted by Belle2Be[/QUOTE]

    Maybe you should learn how to write:

      <em> I might think twice about having her in the wedding party, </em>

    reads as "I've reconsidered having you in the WP because you're pregnant."  No where in your post did you say to talk to her about whether or not she'd still be comfortable with standing in the ceremony. 
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    [QUOTE]Does she still want to be in it? I might think twice about having her in the wedding party, especially since due dates are more of "estimated guesses" rather than set dates, and first time moms are more often late than not, generally up to 2 weeks.
    Posted by Belle2Be[/QUOTE]
    Just in case you forgot what you "said."
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    [QUOTE]My future sister in law just found out she's pregnant and she's due three weeks before the wedding. What's the best option for bridesmaid dresses? I had planned on getting bridesmaid dresses from David's Bridal and<strong> they don't carry maturity dresses.</strong> I read online they suggest ordering 2 sizes larger than her normal size. This is her first child so she's not sure how her body will react. Any ideas?
    Posted by maggsbeck[/QUOTE]


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    I'm going to echo DB, Target or even a maternity brand like Pea in the Pod where she can buy a dress that fits.

    Belle, I get what you're trying to say but the way you explained your first post, it DOES come off as saying that if you were the bride, you'd reconsider having her in the WP in the first place which does really make people think, "I would think of kicking her out".


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    My MOH is due 6 weeks before my wedding. 
    While I didn't reconsider, I did ask her if SHE wanted to reconsider being a MOH.  She knew how much i wanted her there, so it wasn't a question of me not wanting her to be standing up for me.  We hadn't booked our wedding, and we eliminated October right away so that she could be there.

    She emphatically declined stepping down as MOH.
    Open communication is important, and if you are good enough friends, you'll find the right way 

    As a post script...she is due in about a week!  Her dress is in, she used a great dress shop that her family knows, and she'll hold out for a fitting as long as she can to see how her body changes!   We're all so excited for the baby!
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_bridesmaid-due-3-weeks-before-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:ccf70462-1595-4dbd-9cf5-3d75ee479626Post:46aabf45-d55c-42ab-b084-21340feccd53">Re: Bridesmaid due 3 weeks before wedding</a>:
    [QUOTE]There is no need to parent adult women.  Pregnant women are already getting a ton of unwanted advice. There is no need to "talk to her" about whether she wants to be in the wedding. She is quite capable of broaching that subject on her own IF it's an issue. It comes across as bridezilla, not thoughtful, regardless of how it's presented. The mom-to-be is going to hear it as "does she really want me there" no matter how you word it.
    Posted by RetreadBride[/QUOTE]

    "Hey SIL! I'm so excited for you to be in my wedding, but I realize that you are probably crazy overwhelmed with it all, and wanted to let you know that if you decide its too much or if you have to cancel at the last minute I *completely* understand!"
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    [QUOTE]<strong>I never said it wasn't valid. </strong> You need to stop getting so defensive about these things.   No one's holding a gun to FSIL's head to make her be a BM.  There is no indication that she doesn't want to do it.  And the bride bringing this up is basically saying, "I want you out but I don't want to kick you out, so do me a favor and just back down."  It *always* comes across that way to the person on the receiving end.  So why on earth would you recommend to the bride that she put herself in that position?  She only asked what to do about dresses, not whether this gal should be in the wedding at all.  I didn't get the impression at *all* that that was an issue.
    Posted by bablingbrooke[/QUOTE]
    Oh? Then how would YOU interpret "Ignore Belle" ? 
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    [QUOTE]I would let her pick out a dress in the same color/length when she gets closer to the wedding.  My mom was in a wedding while 8 1/2 months pregnant with me and wore a maternity dress in the same color as the other BMs.  I've seen the photo and it looked really cute.<strong> And do ignore Belle's advice</strong>--pregnancy isn't something that should eliminate her from the WP if you really want her there (and especially if you've already asked her).  But the name of the game is to be flexible--babies have been known to arrive early and she may not be able to come; she may need to sit during the ceremony; you get the idea.  I have yet to hear of a bride who regretted going with the flow with regard to a pregnant BM, and I'm sure you'll be no different.
    Posted by bablingbrooke[/QUOTE]

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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bridesmaid due 3 weeks before wedding : "Hey SIL! I'm so excited for you to be in my wedding, but I realize that you are probably crazy overwhelmed with it all, and wanted to let you know that if you decide its too much or if you have to cancel at the last minute I *completely* understand!"
    Posted by Belle2Be[/QUOTE]
    Yeah, no matter how you word it, it still sounds like you're suggesting that she drop out.
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    I'd be more inclined the "Hey, SIL, it's come to my attention that you're about to push something the size of a bowling ball out of your vagina.  If you need any extra accommodations for the wedding stuff, let me know and we'll figure something out" approach myself.  It's completely neutral with regards to the bride's expectations, and still gets the job done.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bridesmaid due 3 weeks before wedding : Personally, I prefer "hey SIL, I want you to know that I will do whatever I can to make you comfortable at the ceremony.  If that means putting a chair up front, or just seating you on the front row, I am completely open to whatever your preference is as we get closer." Since, ya know, the only thing she needs to do is show up for the ceremony.  And if it's "too much" for her to do that, she'll definitely be letting you know closer to time because she would be doing that regardless of WP status or just being a guest. The "if it gets to be too much" makes it sound like you're expecting her to do more than just be there for the ceremony.  Which is improper to imply even with NONpregnant BMs.
    Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]

    I just posted my OWN experience as a FTM (and even the second time around) and being completely sleep deprived and overwhelmed, being a BM would be the last thing on my list of things I'd want to do, but if it were for my future SIL I would feel like it might be offensive to back out because of it. Honestly just being around a lot of people, 3 weeks out might not be so bad, but you're still carrying extra weight, running low on sleep, rarely get the chance to shower properly and  bleeding like a stuck pig. If she tears at all, even sitting for a period of time will be painful (I had a 2nd degree tear with my first, and literally had to sit at a funny angle on a very soft couch or on the boppy for almost 8 weeks). If she decides to BF the baby is still eating every hour ish, which is something else for the bride to take into consideration and make arrangements for (feeding area/room, etc). It's stuff that someone who isn't a parent wouldn't even think about, which is why I brought it up. She doesn't have to kick her out, I just suggested she communicate with her, which I didn't say clearly in my inital post, but regardless I don't need to be lectured on stirring crap or being catty, especially from some here who have nothing better to do than attack and bully others.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bridesmaid due 3 weeks before wedding : That your advice wasn't very good and I wouldn't listen to it if I were in her shoes.  But saying it isn't good isn't the same thing as saying it isn't valid.   Why do you keep coming back just to stir up trouble?  Posting the advice you do and getting defensive?  If I don't like a group of people I avoid them.  
    Posted by bablingbrooke[/QUOTE]

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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bridesmaid due 3 weeks before wedding : I just posted my OWN experience as a FTM (and even the second time around) and being completely sleep deprived and overwhelmed, being a BM would be the last thing on my list of things I'd want to do, but if it were for my future SIL I would feel like it might be offensive to back out because of it. Honestly just being around a lot of people, 3 weeks out might not be so bad, but you're still carrying extra weight, running low on sleep, rarely get the chance to shower properly and  bleeding like a stuck pig. If she tears at all, even sitting for a period of time will be painful (I had a 2nd degree tear with my first, and literally had to sit at a funny angle on a very soft couch or on the boppy for almost 8 weeks). If she decides to BF the baby is still eating every hour ish, which is something else for the bride to take into consideration and make arrangements for (feeding area/room, etc). It's stuff that someone who isn't a parent wouldn't even think about, which is why I brought it up. She doesn't have to kick her out, I just suggested she communicate with her, which I didn't say clearly in my inital post, but regardless I don't need to be lectured on stirring crap or being catty, especially from some here who have nothing better to do than attack and bully others.
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    [QUOTE]I'd be more inclined the "Hey, SIL, it's come to my attention that you're about to push something the size of a bowling ball out of your vagina.  If you need any extra accommodations for the wedding stuff, let me know and we'll figure something out" approach myself.  It's completely neutral with regards to the bride's expectations, and still gets the job done.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bridesmaid due 3 weeks before wedding : I like this group of people, I just don't like you.
    Posted by Belle2Be[/QUOTE]
    Mature.  I'm really glad you decided to reproduce.  Twice.<div>
    </div><div>I'm honestly not sure why you single out me, though, since just about everyone agrees with my assessment of your advice.  And your whole, "I'm a mom so I just know and you don't!" is getting very old.</div>
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bridesmaid due 3 weeks before wedding : Mature.  I'm really glad you decided to reproduce.  Twice. I'm honestly not sure why you single out me, though, since just about everyone agrees with my assessment of your advice.  And your whole, "I'm a mom so I just know and you don't!" is getting very old.
    Posted by bablingbrooke[/QUOTE]

    Whats not mature about not liking someone? You're rude in just about every post I've ever read of yours, since the first day I came here. If "mature" to you is bringing up the fact I decided to reproduce. Twice.  then I'm not too worried about it. And frankly I'm not surprised to read that coming from you.

    I love that you can't just either ignore me or take my advice for what it is. The OP asked about dresses, yes. Having a very post-partum woman in a wedding involves more thought than just dresses, which not everyone thinks about (again, personal experience, I sure wouldn't have if I hadn't had kids).  It's not a "I'm a mom so I know and you don't" thing, at all.  Maybe you do. But not everyone does who reads these threads.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_bridesmaid-due-3-weeks-before-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:ccf70462-1595-4dbd-9cf5-3d75ee479626Post:89552cb5-e978-4876-abb7-839bf72f5a7f">Re: Bridesmaid due 3 weeks before wedding</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bridesmaid due 3 weeks before wedding : I said, GOOD DAY, SIR!
    Posted by tidetravel[/QUOTE]

    Probably wasn't the intent, but this made me laugh. Haven't seen that show in a while since we got rid of TV.
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    Well, ignoring this whole debate that has begun, lol... All I can tell you is that I am going to tell my bridesmaids to choose a black dress that makes them feel amazing and sexy, so they actually can wear it again and also have an excuse to buy a hott dress (or use one that they have). So my advice is to choose a color, let her go from there and choose the cut that will flatter and make her feel sexy and/or attractive.

    :-)

    Good luck and my best wishes to you and your fiance!!!!!

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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_bridesmaid-due-3-weeks-before-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:ccf70462-1595-4dbd-9cf5-3d75ee479626Post:7b21e202-0efe-4eed-82f5-514fdc18c617">Re: Bridesmaid due 3 weeks before wedding</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bridesmaid due 3 weeks before wedding : While I think the reproducing line was over the top, I do think Brooke has a good point.  Everyone here has called out your advice for being bad every bit as often as Brooke has.  And she is absolutely no more "rude" in her advice than any of us, and actually less frank in a lot of situations than many of the regs.  So, why is it that you despise her so much to personally call her out in EVERY THREAD and claim to like and have no issue with the rest of us? I find that very weird. 
    Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]
    Babbling has a habit of name-calling and below the belt blows that I've yet to see from any of the other posters here.  Not so weird to me. Not to mention everyone else who called out my advice as bad misread my intent, which was my own fault for posting with a fever. Banana understood, but tactfully pointed out how it could be (and was) misconstrued.  :)
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