Ring Bear-ess?

breezyblueyez

Is it just weird to have a little girl be the ring bearer(ess?) ? Neither one of our families has any little boys, and none of our friends do either. 

mbcdefg

Not at all. A girl can definitely be the ring bearer.

You also don't HAVE to have a ring bearer, you know. It's fine to include this little girl if she's close to you and you want her in your wedding. But if you just figure that you need a ring bearer and this kid will fill the role, then it's fine to skip the ring bearer all together (ring bearers usually don't carry the real rings, so they serve no real purpose other than honoring a kid you're close to).

trix1223

It's fine.  Just don't call her a ring bear-ess.  That's just dopey.  She's doing what a ring bearer does:  she's a ring bearer.

She can carry the rings up on a pillow, in a little purse, in a basket, tied around the neck of a stuffed animal, etc.  Although usually, ring bearers don't carry the real rings:  those go to the BM or MOH.  The rings that the little tyke carries are fakes for decoration only.

You do also know that you don't have to have an RB or FG at all, right?  They're really only for the cute factor, and are 100% unnecessary for a ceremony.

At both my son's and DD's wedding, there were no children in the WP. 

bablingbrooke

I think it's a great idea.

stina93446

It's totally fine. Our nephew kept calling himself the "ring bear". You could also have boys with the flowers. There's no rule that says girls must be fgs and boys must be rbs.

MyNameIsNot

Yes.  Ring bearer is a gender neutral title.  Or you could just have a couple of flower girls.  The only point of having children in the wedding is for them to look cute, so either way works.

breezyblueyez

THanks guys! i like the idea of an additional flower girl instead   lol i didnt know any of this stuff, i've honestly never been to a wedding! weird that my first experience will be my own!

mbcdefg

On another note, "ring bearess" sounds a lot like "ring bare_ass" to me :P

mm45737

i had 3 flower girls and a ring bearer that was also a girl. the FG's wore pink dresses and the RB wore the same dress but in black. they were all adorable.