My Fiance's original list of GM include 12 guys. We had cut that number down to 7, and then he said he forgot about a few others to include on his original list, which would have made it 15. This is not including the 5 ushers, which my step-bro is apart of. He went to a large school and church and has been lifelong friends with most of these guys, and was in most of their weddings. Many of them are also mutual friends and he feels like he must include one if he includes the other. I told him that this is getting silly and since we've been together he had not spoke of or seen a lot of them. So 20 guys. I said I would be fine with that if we could utilize them as a choir.
For two months now we have been going back in forth on these numbers, and it's very difficult because our wedding will be on a strict budget which we are paying out of pocket. And our wedding is in 4 1/2 months! There is simply not enough room for everyone to stand up there and for them to see, sightline will be blocked by a well, as well as the guests to see.
I do not want that many people and my girls understand, and are not offend to not stand up there. I was in many of their weddings, several years back. I'm the last of everyone to get married and not one of bridesmaids will be single. I simply can't include everyone. I would have close to 20 as well.
I think it's reasonable to have 7I do want to include my 2 sisters, my step-sister and his sister. But he says he can't cut the list that small unless he cuts it down to one. I think 1 v. 4 will look silly. He has suggested now that we have 2, just my sisters, his oldest friend, and his brother in-law. But in that case I think he should have his sister. Now someone has suggested to him, just to include a list of the guys as honorary GM in the program, but if we do that I would definately include all my girls. It seems silly to devote one side of the program to 40 names. We should just list everyone in attendance!
PLEASE help with ideas, I'm at the point of saying NO attandents.