inviting coworkers

SA102006

Hello i am getting married in 4 months. I have two jobs and am only inviting my coworkers from one of my jobs. There are 4 other girls that work there. I am pretty close to 3 of the girls since i have worked with them for 5 years. One of the girls just started working there about 5 months ago. I don't really know her, i works with her once a week just for a couple of hours. We are friendly with each other but im still getting to know her. I am inviting the 3 other girls but i am not sure if i should be inviting her too even thou i don't really know her and i am inviting the rest of the girls. Please help.

Summer2011Bride

Hmm I typically say only invite the coworkers you are friends with/socialize with outside of work. But if you work with four people and only invite three, that's alienating one person and might change my mind.

I would probably wait and see how you feel when invitations go out (6-8 weeks prior). If you are friendly with her, are starting to get to know her better, etc., I might extend the invite to her just so she doesn't feel left out. If you worked with 20 people, I would have no issue only inviting three. But working with four and leaving only one out might cause awkward/hurtful situations on the job if the wedding gets brought up by your other three co-workers.

misssunshine17

If you really only see her once a week, I don't think you need to invite her. 

mlg78

I agree -- wait to see how you feel when invites go out.  In the meantime, don't talk wedding with her just to be safe in case she doesn't end up getting invited.  

[Deleted User]

Since it's a small team, I would invite them if you have the space/room in the budget.  Only because you're inviting 3/4 and I would hate to make things awkward for you there.  However, I would  minimze the discussion of the wedding at work as well, just incase.

mattycam

I work for a small company so I either invite everyone or invite noone.

AddieCake

I think you should do all or none. With such a small group, that could be awkward!

SA102006

OKay thank you everyone

hollyk224

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_inviting-coworkers?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:d9a281f0-edff-4ad1-be9c-61820898ee69Post:3e298d17-c180-415a-9697-248ea2d0e215">Re: inviting coworkers</a>:
[QUOTE] If you are friendly with her, are starting to get to know her better, etc., I might extend the invite to her just so she doesn't feel left out. If you worked with 20 people, I would have no issue only inviting three. But working with four and leaving only one out might cause awkward/hurtful situations on the job if the wedding gets brought up by your other three co-workers.
Posted by Summer2011Bride[/QUOTE]

<div>I agree completely.  I had a similar situation with my wedding.  I invited probably 10 former coworkers of mine from a job I had for about 6 1/2 years.  Even though we hadn't worked together for about 2 years before the wedding, they were still very good friends of mine.  However, there was one girl that I was never really good friends with, but we had worked together the entire 6 1/2 years.  We were friendly, just not as good of friends as most of the others.  I still invited her because I didn't want her to feel left out.  She ended up coming and had a wonderful time.  I'm really glad I decided to extend the invitation to her.</div>