I've talked to my family about this, however I feel as though I need an outside opinion...
I have a large extended family that I am very close with. My cousin and I were best friends growing up being the only two girls for so long. There was never a doubt that we would be in each others wedding. We always told each other we would. She got engaged the month before me. I was talking to her and her brother's GF the other day and they were talking about her bridal party. Through this conversation I learned she has already sent out her invites to her bridesmaids. As they discussed the wedding party in front of me I was heartbroken to learn that she had picked two girls she isn't very close with over me. And she only chose to ask those girls b/c they asked her if they would be in her wedding party! (She felt obligated to have them after that.) Now everyone is telling me not to have her...and i'm torn. I don't want her to not be in my wedding just b/c i'm not in hers. I've always imagined she would be in my wedding. (I am older and a few years out of college so I understand how friendships fade, but my family is forever. She just graduated college in May). I am hurt that she would forget or disregard what we always told each other. I just don't feel important to her. But I don't want to feel like I am making my decision out of spite.