2 Questions?

Jalee85

1. I am wondering b/c of my other post who would consider the parents of the bride and groom as being part ofthe Wedding Party? I was raised to believe that they are?

2. I was under the impression the Parents of the Bride and Groom usually dress like the party but with their own special destinction.so I am also wondering what others personal experiences have been and how did mainly (the fathers) dress for any one who has already had their wedding?

Plese for the others who posted so negatively on my other post I just would like to know what others have done...thanks

LittleMissCutiePie

1. Nope, not unless you ask them to be BMs or GMs. They are "guests of honor".
2. Nope. Refer to point one. Your father should wear whatever he's comfortable in. No one will side-eye your wedding if the father of the bride or father of the groom are wearing different formalwear than the WP. It is considerate of them to consult with you on the appropriateness of the level of formality they are comfortable in, and beyond that they can wear whatever they want.

harpsdesire

For my wedding my FI and I are having the dads choose what to wear themselves.  ( It never occured to me to tell my own father how to dress himself, lol)

FI is wearing a kilt and so are the groomsmen and his dad, but my family is not Scottish so my dad is wearing a black suit or maybe a tux since he says he doesn't think any of his suits fit him anymore so it might be easier to rent something.

sweetcanadian1979

Parents are not part of the wedding party. They are just that........parents.
We have a head table, sweetheart tables are not even heard of from where i am from & parents do not EVER sit at the head table with the wp unless they are a true member of the wp as a gm/bm MOH/BM.

I have not had my wedding yet but i have NEVER ever seen the fathers match the bp, ever. I have been to at least 10 weddings all ranging in formality. One church wedding i went to the father was not walking my cousin down the aisle, her son was, so he wore jeans. How is that for you?
 
Their church wedding was no less validating because he did not wear a suit ot tux. Yours won't be either if he wears what he wants, this is not a battle you should have. How would you feel if they told you how to dress to go to work? Come on now.

JaxInBlue

1.  Our parents were not considered part of the wedding party.  They were hosts, honored guests, or something like that. 

2.  Our parents did not match each other and only minimally matched the wedding party.  My dads wore black tuxes that DH and I made arrangements for when we picked out his tux, but they all agreed ahead of time to wear tuxes.  They were the same tux as the groom & groomsmen but had a different color vest and tie.  FIL wore a gray suit.  My mom and my MIL each picked out their own dress and about the only thing they had in common was that each had some sparkle on the top portion.  One was long, the other was short.  I didn't see either mom's dress until we got into town for the wedding.  Everyone looked wonderful - and the pictures don't look weird at all.

mbcdefg

1. They're included in formal photos and stuff like that. But we didn't consider our parents as part of the wedding party in the sense that we could pick out their outfits or have them standon the altar with us like the bridesmaids and groomsmen did.

2. We told our dads to dress however they wanted. They elected to rent the same tux and wear the same tie as the groomsmen. The parents received white flowers and the bridal party had pink flowers. Our colors were black and green, and my mom wound up wearing an ice blue outfit and it looked fine.

Maggie0829

1) Parents are not considered part of the wedding party

2) Since they are not part of the wedding party you cannot tell them what they must wear.  They do not need to match or coordinate the wedding party.  They are guests of honor and can wear whatever they wish.  They are also adults and do not need to have their hand held while picking out their outfit.

FaithCaitlin

The PPs pretty much covered it but...

1. Your parents are not apart of the WP.

2. They should dress however they like. 

amymaysa

Ditto what the PP's have said.

No one was being mean or negative in your other post (that I read anyway). Just because they tell you something you may not agree with or haven't heard before doesn't make them mean.

msuprincess04

In all the mid-west weddings I've seen

1) they were not part of the wedding party.

2) They did not match. One two occasions, the mothers had flowers pinned on wiht a ribbon that matched the wedding colors. They did not sit at the head table (I have yet to go to a wedding with a sweetheart table), and sometimes the dads wore a tux, and others just a suit. It was what they were comfortable in.

Habs2Hart

Nope, they aren't part of the wedding party and they get to wear whatever they want.

My Father chose a really nice black suit with a blue tie and his wife wore a lovely blue, short dress.  My step dad wore a charcoal suit, and a tie to match my mother who wore a beautiful silk mulit-coloured but cream based dress. 

H's dad wore a black suit, with an aqua tie to match his wife who had on an aqua dress the same shade, and H's mom wore a long navy dress and her SO had on a suit to compliment. 

The couples chose to compliment one another, not the wp (although my mom ended up looking fabulous with the WP since her dress had some grey and purple in it anyway). 

The girls wore purple dresses, the boys wore black tux suits with silver ties and vests. 

graysquirrel

1. Parents are not considered part of the WP. The party consists of your BMs, GM, and child attendants. Sometimes it includes the ushers.

2. My mother selected a dress of her choice. She incorporated one of our colors into her jacket, but it was not a color that the BMs or GM wore. My father  happily wore the same tux that the GM and ushers wore to match the formality of the event, but fathers are not required to do that.

jemmini6

As PPs said, your parents are not part of the wedding party.  However, both my dad and my FIL (more like my mom and MIL) didn't think any attire they owned was appropriate, so they rented tuxes.  It was more an issue of them matching the formality of the event, not to match the WP.

sparent2010

No they are not part of the wedding party

No they are wearing whatever they want.

sonya+adam

1. No, they are just guests of honor.
2. I've always seen the fathers wear tuxes like the GMs. The mothers wear a nice dress, that they get to choose, normally not in the same color as the BMs, but they can, if they want to. Usually, they get some sort of corsage to signify that they are a guest of honor. (Fathers get a bout.)

Soon2bMrsD5860

Parents are not part of the wedding party.

Our dads are wearing whatever they want.  No tuxes.  My dad will be walking me down the aisle.  In whatever the hell he chooses to wear.  He's an adult.  He can find something suitable for the occasion.  They will be wearing bouts to signify they are our family, but that is all.