I don't know how to approach this, so I would like some advice, if you have any to give. If you don't, well, that's cool too.

My FI and I are best friends with a couple from church in the town where we go to college. They are amazing people, and we love to spend time with them. FI and I have expressed interest to each other about having them be our MOH/Best Man.
We had originally expresed interest in staying in our college town after graduation, but soon figured out that due to economic reasons, it is just not feasible. We will be moving home after graduation in May (home is on the other side of the state). The issue is that our best friends have now told us they feel it is "God's will that [you] stay in [college town] and we think you're wrong to ignore that call". Since that discussion in early February (a week after we got engaged!), they have stopped talking to us except in church, and we haven't hung out with them since.
I am very upset, and don't know how to fix this, or if I even can. Like I said, we wanted to ask them to be party of our bridal party (thank goodness we haven't yet!) so it's kind of a major blow.
CN: BFFs of FI and I (who we wish to be MOH/Best Man) knocking off friendship because we're not following what they think is "God's Will" for us.
Any ideas on what to say or do? Just confused...
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I'm really sorry you're having to go through this, but it's possible that this friendship has just run its course. It's just as bad to get dumped by a friend as by a SO, but I think your only options are to leave the door open for if they decide to stop being douchey, but otherwise to mourn the loss of their friendship and move on.
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Told Fi I was going to ask you girls, so I'll share your advice when he gets home from Boys Club tonight and see how he thinks we should proceed. You girls are really awesome, I appreciate all the help I''ve gotten (just from reading other's post, mostly, haha!)
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oh noes, sweetpea UPDATED her planning bio
[QUOTE]Told Fi I was going to ask you girls, so I'll share your advice when he gets home from Boys Club tonight and see how he thinks we should proceed.
Posted by sweetpea0911[/QUOTE]
<div>Get used to this....I ask all kinds of things on here. Not even remotely wedding related sometimes. DH is always asking "well, what do the knotties say?"</div>
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Not that it's a bad thing, but it's kind of funny to see it in action again. Though this board is better about staying mostly on topic.
This is a belated married bio, with no reviews yet because I'm lazy.
Sometimes I feel like people think that brides are delicate little flower princesses who get all dressed up and pretty for one special moment of their dreams, when really they're just normal people who just happen to be getting married. Things shouldn't have to be sugar-coated for grown-ass women. -mstar284
THis is why I don't get along with the "holier than thou" christians
[QUOTE]Tell them you feel God is opening the door for you to take this direction in life. THis is a matter between God, you and your FI and no one else can know what is best for you. It is inappropriate as christians that they judge you for doing something you feel to be right with your lord. <strong>THis is why I don't get along with the "holier than thou" christians</strong>
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<div>AMEN. I love God with all my heart, but "Holier than Thou" Christians are so difficult for me to deal with! Jesus was the most humble man to ever walk the planet, what makes them think they have the right to act like they've done something really great? God chose THEM- not the other way around. It's not like becoming a Christian is a mark of your own goodness- it's a mark of God's unending love and mercy, that he invites sinners such as us to partake in his kingdom. drives me nuts!</div>
"I distrust those people who know so well what God wants them to do because I notice it always coincides with their own desires."
Abby that is hilarious! Emily-I like that quote!
I'm religious too but the holier than thou christians seem like they are only doing it for "show." I have a lot of church issues so i'm a little biased but i've seen sunday school teachers commit adultery, deacons cheat, lie, curse, and do drugs. These are all Holier than thou christians from my old church. I feel like religion is something between you and whom ever you worship; it is not to be pushed upon you like a used car, at a shady dealership, by a guy named Vick with a cigar and a beer gut.
RE: the MOH/BM angle, definitely wait to ask anyone. You're still a long way away from your wedding and a lot can change in that time, as you're seeing now with the way this friendship has changed. I'd wait until you're a year out to ask anyone, especially with an event as big as this move on the horizon.
GL.
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