Hi all- I posted on here once before and you all were very helpful, so I'm back for round 2!
Here's the situation:
FI has two married sisters with kids. Sister M has a 10-year-old boy and a 6-year-old girl. Sister N has a 6-year-old girl, a 4-year-old boy, and a baby.
Both the girls will be flower girls. M's 10-year-old asked us (before we were even engaged) if he could be the ringbearer, so he will be the ringbearer. N is the type of mom who feels like things have to be equal. Even though FI told her that her four-year-old would not be a second ringbearer, somehow the 4-year-old got it into his head that he's a ringbearer too. N has not corrected this, and called FI to tell him what her son thought.
I don't want the four-year-old to feel left out, but I also don't want to add him to appease N. Also, M's 10-year-old is so proud to be the ringbearer- I feel like he gets lumped in with the four-year-old too often and I don't want to do that to him.
I was thinking of having the four-year-old stand up with us to hold my bouquet during the vows and ring exchanges- is this a good idea?
TIA!
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