MOH Question

tandrosoff

Morning!
Does anyone have more then 1 maid of honor (I know you can have a maid & maitron but I want to know if you have more then 1 maid of honor)? Did you orginally ask 1 girl to be your MOH & then asked another mid way planning? Any info if this relates to you would be appreciated!

hjay07

I think nowadays you can have as many MOHs (maids OR matrons) or as few as you want. I've been to weddings where there wasn't an MOH and I was an MOH in a wedding that had three co-MOHs. Having three seemed excessive to me, but oh well.
To me, the important thing is to ask the whole bridal party at the same time. Not like you all have to be in the same room together, but talk to each girl the same week, you know? If you add someone midway through, it'll make that person feel like an aterthought, I think. Especially if someone is a BM and you "promote" her to MOH, I think that could potentially upset her and the other MOH. Besides, being a BM is an honor too.

JaxJ128

I have 2 maid of honors! You can do whatever you want.

JaxJ128

I have 2 maid of honors! You can do whatever you want.

Maggie0829

I think having more then two MOHs (whether it be maid/matron or matron/matron or maid/matro) is excessive.

I only had 1 MOH and 1 BM.  I think that asking someone to be MOH mid way through planning after the other MOH has been asked and so have the other BM is a bit weird.  It may come off as you seeing if that person has been helpful enough through the wedding planning process to deserve the title as MOH.  I think that if that person doesn't immediately come to mind as a person you want to have as your MOH then you shouldn't ask them to be your MOH at any point in time.

cwaggoner07

I have 2 sisters, and we decided when we were younger to all have the other 2 be MOH's. I was the first to get married, so I had 2 maids of honor. The next will have one maid and one matron, and the last will have two matrons.
And maybe I'm biased, but I think unless it's a family situation that more than one MOH can look excessive, especially if you have a smaller bridal party.

rlmarroc

I agree with cwaggoner07, I have 2 MOH's, but they are my sisters. I then have 2 BM's (FI's sister and my best friend since 3rd grade who is basically my sister)

I would think it was odd too if it wasn't a family situation and the bride had more than 1 MOH but that's my opinion.

[Deleted User]

I've seen several weddings now with multiple MOHs and I don't see an issue. However, I agree with PPs that picking one first and another later is insulting to both MOHs. To the one, it's like they weren't doing a good enough job so you brought in an extra. To the other, it's like she's an afterthough and wasn't good enough in the first place, but has somehow "earned" her place. So, if you want to do it, just ask both at the same time.

loca4pook

I have two MOH (my sisters) which I asked at the same time