I just need to vent, not really asking for advice because I get a lot of "kick their a$$es out of your wedding" and I don't want to do that. Because they are both close to me. I have tried talking to them, but I just feel like I don't get through to them....
My two MOH's (one is my sister, "Shelly", the other a childhood friend "Caylen") Shelly got married a couple of years ago, while she was planning the wedding (for the most part) she was pretty level-headed. But I was pregnant at the time that she was planning, she did have her moments when she said some horrible things to me (i.e. "you are not allowed to have sex after your baby is born because I don't want you to be pregnant for my wedding", "if you and your boyfriend get married before me I will never speak to you again", "she won't be trying on any dresses because she won't fit in to them, look at her she is as big as a house", the list goes on) Now that it is my turn to have a wedding, she is saying she doesn't want to go bridesmaid dress shopping until 3 months out from the wedding because she doesn't know if she will be pregnant, I want her to have a baby because she wants it so bad and she will be an awesome mom, but 3 months out from the wedding? Isn't that cutting it a little close? AND every dress that I like, she keeps saying, I need an empire waist dress so my prego-belly can fit. Well I (the bride) do not like empire waist dresses, because to me (this is my opinion), they make everyone look like they are hiding a pregnancy under the dress. And I just don't like to the over all look of them. Well now my OTHER MOH "Caylen" is starting to side with her, any time I get a picture of a dress from either of them it is for the dresses that Shelly likes. When I have told them time and time again, I do not like that style of dresses.
Then, if I want to have a day where I do nothing but plan for the wedding, all I hear is 'don't do this, it is tacky, you should book the person I booked for my wedding they are the best, I wouldn't do that for my wedding, I did this, this is what you should do because I did it." OR they don't even come to my house, but hang out with each other instead.
So I have been leaning on my other bridesmaid (who has a baby of her own, works full time, and is planning a wedding of her own) to help me out. And I feel bad because she is just as excited to plan for her wedding. So we end up planning both at the same time, which is fine, but I am sure she would like a little time in the sun, just like I would. Oh and this bridesmaid is helping her sister plan her wedding which is coming up very soon, SO she is really busy...
AHHHHHH!
thanks for listening...