How much should they be involved? The FI and I knew we were getting married soon and basically before we were officially engaged I started looking at dates, venues, colors and all sorts of things so when we did get engaged I already knew what I wanted. I went out and put my deposits down on everything because the venders I wanted to make sure I got them for my day! I even went wedding dress shopping by myself but it was a last minute thing and there was a trunk show I just found out about.. they seem to be a lil disappointed in the though.