Greeter???

lilias123 · July 2011

One of my best friends got engaged a week ago. We've been friends for an exteremly long time and she has told me consistantly over the past few years that I'm going to be a bridesmaid in her wedding. Then last night she texts me and says all formally and stuff that she really wants me in the wedding, but between her fiance's many sisters and her own there isn't room as a bridesmaid and asks me to be a greeter.

I said yes not wanting to cause conflict, though I am hurt by this, expecially since she's known me for more than 8 years and has only known his sisters for 1. Her wedding is set for over a year from now and I feel as though she's rushing picking her attendents, especially after a week of being engaged.

I'll be fine with being a greeter, though I am hurt by it. I want to say something, but it's her wedding so I'm keeping my mouth shut. Although I would like to know, what the hell a greeter does and if I can out and pick my own dress or if I have to wear something hideous that she picks out for me. I guess there are two other girl friends of hers that are going to be greeters.

Taylorrichards · May 2012

I just got engaged, So I have not had my BIG day yet but I am so excited!! Not going to lie I am going to ask 3 girls who have been good friends to me throughout the last 5 years to be "Greeters/hostess/personal attendant/ guestbook attendant because I have 3 sisters who have been so close, 2 sister in laws to be (who I have been close with for 4 years of dating my fiance') My maid of honor(who I have known and been extremely close with since 6th grade) and one of my best friends who has been like the sister I have not had(I was also in her wedding). So see people sometimes have a lot of family and a lot of friends! We agreed on 7 each side and so we have to decide but as a bride to be I hope they would not be disappointed but Happy. They are the only 3 girls who I trust to look pretty and greet whe everyone walks in, to tell people where presents are to be placed, to sign the guestbook! I would not want any one else than these three girls.
Same with my Fiance', he will have a few great guys being our ushers to help people to there seats and get everyone in on time.
Please do not be let down!!

DIVA38V · May 2013

Greeter is a real slap in the face. That is what your wedding coordinator is for, showing people where to put the gifts ect. It is just a real bridzilla thing to do. Don't think for one minute that everyone wants to be your toady for the day. If you can't fit someone in your wedding party, then just explain the numbers to that person and let them enjoy the day as a guest. Ushers would be the groomsmen.

Good for you lillas123, you are a better woman than I am. I would have respectfully declined the honor of greeter.

QueerFemme · May 2013

greeter!? Tell her to hire one of those old ladies from walmart. That is a shit job and I would absolutely decline.

QueerFemme · May 2013

Taylorrichards said:

I just got engaged, So I have not had my BIG day yet but I am so excited!! Not going to lie I am going to ask 3 girls who have been good friends to me throughout the last 5 years to be "Greeters/hostess/personal attendant/ guestbook attendant because I have 3 sisters who have been so close, 2 sister in laws to be (who I have been close with for 4 years of dating my fiance') My maid of honor(who I have known and been extremely close with since 6th grade) and one of my best friends who has been like the sister I have not had(I was also in her wedding). So see people sometimes have a lot of family and a lot of friends! We agreed on 7 each side and so we have to decide but as a bride to be I hope they would not be disappointed but Happy. They are the only 3 girls who I trust to look pretty and greet whe everyone walks in, to tell people where presents are to be placed, to sign the guestbook! I would not want any one else than these three girls.
Same with my Fiance', he will have a few great guys being our ushers to help people to there seats and get everyone in on time.
Please do not be let down!!

I am honestly horrified that you would (a) give your friends shitty jobs like guestbook attendant, personal attendant and greeter and (b) say that you are trusting them to "look pretty".

if you want someone to greet guests, give directions, etc. Hire a Day of Coordinator. Your plans are rude to your friends.

PrettyGirlLost · May 2013

Taylorrichards said:

I just got engaged, So I have not had my BIG day yet but I am so excited!! Not going to lie I am going to ask 3 girls who have been good friends to me throughout the last 5 years to be "Greeters/hostess/personal attendant/ guestbook attendant because I have 3 sisters who have been so close, 2 sister in laws to be (who I have been close with for 4 years of dating my fiance') My maid of honor(who I have known and been extremely close with since 6th grade) and one of my best friends who has been like the sister I have not had(I was also in her wedding). So see people sometimes have a lot of family and a lot of friends! We agreed on 7 each side and so we have to decide but as a bride to be I hope they would not be disappointed but Happy. They are the only 3 girls who I trust to look pretty and greet whe everyone walks in, to tell people where presents are to be placed, to sign the guestbook! I would not want any one else than these three girls.
Same with my Fiance', he will have a few great guys being our ushers to help people to there seats and get everyone in on time.
Please do not be let down!!

Congrats on your engagement! I really hope you enjoy it :-)

Also, please consider just asking these 3 other friends to be your BM's. Sure, 10 BMs might be a lot, but if those are your nearest and dearest, so be it. I have 10 BMs as well!

Your FI, Groomsmen, and other family members can be greeters. You, your FI, and your parents are the hosts. You are a bride, not European royalty- you have Bridesmaids, not personal attendants. No one needs to attend to the guestbook- it's not going to run off and everyone knows what the purpose of one is.