HELP! Need advice

Star_m3

I've heard of bridezillas...but what about MOHzillas?

Mine had a moment yesterday and stressed me out so much. Yes, she is my bf and MOH but don't know why she thinks she can tell me how to have things on our wedding day. Grrr...how does one handle a situation like this?

Any advice is greatly appeciated.

MyNameIsNot

What happened?

emilykathleen511

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[QUOTE]I've heard of bridezillas...but what about MOHzillas? Mine had a moment yesterday and stressed me out so much. Yes, she is my bf and MOH but don't know why she thinks she can tell me how to have things on our wedding day. Grrr...how does one handle a situation like this? Any advice is greatly appeciated.
Posted by Star_m3[/QUOTE]

<div>How to handle what? You didn't say what happened...</div>

emilyinchile

Smile, nod, and pass the bean dip (change the subject).

trix1223

Need more info to comment on your "issues".

alexlad

Try to remember she is doing this because she loves you. Tell her you really appreciate how much she cares. Thank her for her advice and tell her you are considering it. Then tell her you think you would rather__ instead because it is more you and your grooms style etc. If it gets too bad tell her you "feel" like she is pushing you too much and to let you make your own decisions for your day.

mbcdefg

If she's commenting on things like personal style that won't hurt anyone if you don't do it her way (what color flowers to have, what kind of music to play, how to wear your hair), then smile, give a non-committal answer ("Thanks for the suggestion, I'll keep it in mind!") and change the subject. Or say, "Sorry, but we already committed to doing XYZ" and then change the subject.

If she's commenting on how you're treating people, that she's spending too much money on her dress or that you're making the BMs get makeup and hair done on their own dime, etc., then at least hear her out. If your decisions will affect other people besides you and FI, she may have a point and you might want to change your mind.

saxy414

What was the issue?  If it doesn't hurt her or other guests, tell her you'll keep it in mind and change the subject.  If it's something that could be considered rude by your guests or BMs--like a money issue or comfort issue, then hear her out.  She might have a point. 

mizri

Like PPs, I don't know what the issue is, but I can sympathize with you on MOH...  I love my MOH, and love that she is willing to travel almost all the way across the state of TEXAS to be in my wedding (4-5 hour drive), but she is taking a few things personally, like the fact that one of my BMs wants to host the wedding shower.  She doesn't see the point of a wedding shower and feels that I should not have one, since she didn't at her wedding, and all the guests could just bring gifts to the wedding.  I would actually like for my BM to host the shower and was flattered that she mentioned it.