My fiance has 4 children. His oldest is a 16yr old boy, who doesn't visit on any kind of regular basis, doesn't speak really to his father on any kind of regular basis, and is in Seattle with his uncle right now as a "last ditch effort" to try to change his "thought process" for lack of a better phrase (we live in California). Basically, he is a screw up. He does't like me, doesn't like the idea of his father marrying me (although his mother is already remarried with a new baby!), and refuses to listen to anything I say. He lives with his mother and unfortunatley gets no "home training." My fiance has decided to make him an usher in our ceremony, which I really don't want, but I did leave it up to him to decide. I did put my foot down and say that he was not allowed to be anything but an usher, though. If this kid says or does anything during my wedding, I will knock him out! HELP!