Probably the dumbest TY note question ever

megk8oz

I think I will go the "note on the envelope" route ... not sure quite what to say yet, but at least it won't look like I waited until almost a year after the wedding to write thank you notes. I just noticed my log in screen on TK, and it told me "it's been 306 days since your wedding" ~cringe~

Thanks, everybody!

megk8oz

Emily, I actually remember you saying you had a housekeeper a while back, which is kind of what got me turned on to the idea in the first place (Because I was insanely jealous).

Right now we don't want to have somebody come regularly, but this one time to get a complete overhaul of the place is desperately needed. I'd like to think once it's under control we can handle it ... but honestly if I find it keeps getting out of hand, or we aren't staying on top of it, I really might consider hiring a weekly or monthly service, if we can find somebody that's affordable.

The people that are coming in tomorrow are literally doing everything: steam cleaning the furniture, reorganizing everything, throwing out anything we don't want anymore, and completely scrubbing the bathroom ... and it's only going to cost $250. So when I go home tomorrow, my house should be positively sparkling ... I'm not going to lie, I'm all excited about it.

aerinpegadrak

I think I would feel a little awkward just sitting around the house while they cleaned, though.  Like, "Yeah, go ahead and do all my dirty work, I'll just be smacking around some minotaurs in God of War."  I'm not sure I would be able to resist the urge to get up and help.

My friends are all po' folk, I have no idea who I would even ask for a recommendation...

megk8oz

The truth is, financially, we're probably the "best" off out of our friends, and we're still pretty darn broke-but we're also the only ones where we live together and both work full time. A lot of our friends are still in "bachelor pad/college apartment" mode, and a few still live at home, so cleaning isn't a priority. And with most of our married friends, the wife stays home or only works part time.

We could afford for me to be part time (Which would give me time to invest in cleaning the house), but to do that, we'd have to pretty much give up on any "extras", like date nights or impulse purchases. I like my "extras", I don't like housework, so working full time (And occasionally paying somebody else to do the work for us with our earnings) makes complete sense right now.

I know we're getting the side-eye from a few people because we're "wasting our money on something we can do ourselves". But we really did save up for this, and frankly, just because we both work full time and don't actually enjoy cleaning, doesn't mean we don't deserve to live in a clean house, so to hell with their side-eyes.

emilyinchile

One couple I'm friends with in the US is just now starting to have someone come every two weeks, so I definitely know that it's not normal for most people in their 20s there. But Meg, I'm with you - if you can afford it, and it's worth it to you, screw anyone who wants to judge you for it. I'm sure they spend money on things that to me would be a waste, it's just different priorities.

I've been home a couple times when our cleaning lady's been there (like home sick from work), and I've felt kind of awkward, but awkward is better than robbed blind if you're not sure about someone at first.

aerinpegadrak

We like our extras, too.  We're pretty solidly middle class right now.  We're not wealthy by any means, but we aren't living paycheck to paycheck and don't have to have a household budget or anything.  That's part of why we're moving.  We want more space, but we're not willing to go back to our former broke-ass existence to get it.

At this point, I think I'll probably just lump the housekeeper in as a moving expense.  After all, it'll make the move much easier if we can get rid of all this excess crap.