Male best friend of bride

Knottie_22383849

My best friend from when I was very little is a male and I wouldn't mind having him stand on my side, but my family is opposed to it. My sweet fiance wouldn't mind him standing on his side, but I don't want to make my fiance have my best friend on his side.  Does anyone have ideas what to do with a male best friend if not putting him on my side?  I want him to be an important part of our wedding, I am just not sure how. 
Thanks!

amm0804

My best friend from when I was very little is a male and I wouldn't mind having him stand on my side, but my family is opposed to it. My sweet fiance wouldn't mind him standing on his side, but I don't want to make my fiance have my best friend on his side.  Does anyone have ideas what to do with a male best friend if not putting him on my side?  I want him to be an important part of our wedding, I am just not sure how. 
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AddieCake

Nobody should pick your wedding party but you. 

Peledreamsofrain

Good lord, this is none of your family's business. Your friend should stand next to you.  Defend that right, because they are wrong, and he doesn't deserve to be slighted because they can't see past the physical form, and value relationships instead.

zitiqueen

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_male-best-friend-of-bride?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:f88064c5-db49-439c-995d-79d7eb680d0bPost:4189de26-eb4b-4509-9000-c8f950147db3">Male best friend of bride</a>:
[QUOTE]My best friend from when I was very little is a male and I wouldn't mind having him stand on my side, but my family is opposed to it. My sweet fiance wouldn't mind him standing on his side, but I don't want to make my fiance have my best friend on his side.  Does anyone have ideas what to do with a male best friend if not putting him on my side?  I want him to be an important part of our wedding, I am just not sure how.  Thanks!
Posted by amm0804[/QUOTE]

Why is your family opposed to it, and why do you care about their opinion of who is in your bridal party?

JennaMichelle88

FI has his female cousin on his side and I have my male friend on my side. Both of them are gay (not the reason they are on "opposite" sides, it just happened that way) and because of that we had a little bit of push-back from his family. I'm not sure if FI ever said anything to the people who had a problem with it, but when he told me he just said "I don't care, we're leaving it the way it is - they're being dumb!"

Honestly, mixed gender WPs are pretty normal now. If they have an issue with it they will be in the wrong.

missglinda14

In Response to Re:Male best friend of bride:[QUOTE]"Family, you know X is my best friend.nbsp; Don't you think it's horribly insensitive and incredibly sexist, especially in this day and age, to tell him he can't stand beside me for fifteen minutes of a ceremony simply and solely because he was born with a P instead of a V??? Do you think that's any way to treat a FRIEND? I am better than that even if you aren't.nbsp; He WILL stand on my side during my wedding day.nbsp; I'd feel horrible if I looked at my wedding album on my 25th anniversary and didn't see him in my wedding party just because you can't get past the fact that he wears pants instead of a skirt. Perhaps you think it's okay to treat people you care about that way, but I don't."That should shut them up. Posted by RetreadBride[/QUOTE]

This!!

FWIW, I have a Man of Honor and my FMIL had a big problem with it when she found out. FI told her she needed to get over it and quick because that was the way it was gonna be. I would have deeply regretted not having him next to me, so don't let your family make this decision for you. You will regret it down the road.

Sephiroth

People have mixed gender wedding parties ALL.THE.TIME. Stand up to your family. Find pictures online of wedding parties with mixed gender sides, so they can see it doesn't look like aliens invading.

What's their problem with it anyway?

Seriously would suck for your best friend to get shafted out of being in your wedding party just because he's male. That's no way for you to treat your BEST FRIEND, no matter what your family has to say about it.

Lisa50

My thought it this -- if he's your best friend, make him your honor attendant, your best man.  Let your family get used to the concept that this is YOUR wedding, that you're all grown up now, completely capable of making your own decisions.  Good luck!