Maybe some other brides-to-be are having this issue, or have dealt with it in the past, but I'd sure like some advice. I have a younger sister, who happens to also be my only sister. When my fiance and I decided on our wedding party, we had some questions between us whether we should have my younger sister (then still in high school) be my maid of honor, or his older, married sister. I took it directly to my sister, asking her if she wanted that responsiblity, and she declined, saying her upcoming years of college were going to take a tax on her time, and to have my soon-to-be-sister-in-law fill the position. That said, we've begun planning stuff. When I scheduled my first dress searching mission, it was really important that I have all (3) of my mom's (mom-in-law included) to be there as well as all of my 5 bridesmaids, since several of them have to travel quite a distance, to meet one another as a good start to the upcoming year of festivities.
Everyone was able to make it save a bridesmaid who's boss wouldn't give her the time off (but she came by later to celebrate privately with me), and my sister. My sister lives at home with my step-mom, who came.
I ended up finding my dress that first searching mission, and I explained to my sister that it hurt me that she chose not to come. Her excuse was that was the only time to see her boyfriend. I asked her to come another saturday to pick up my dress, thinking maybe she could see it in person then. Again, I was denied because of "boyfriend" issues.
Now I've been prepping the ladies for bridesmaid dress shopping, and my sister has actively voiced that it better not be on a saturday, or else she won't come. But everyone else works mon-fri 9-5 jobs, so saturdays work best.
How do I tackle this lack of wanting to participate in your only sister's wedding???? I want my sister there, but if she's not wanting to participate in ANY of the activities she committed to as a bridesmaid, would it be better to let her bow out?