My MOH was the first person I asked to be a part of my wedding party. We had talked before I got engaged to make sure that if she was part of the wedding party that she would be able to afford it. She said that she would be able to afford it as well as being able to afford to have both of her children in the wedding as well. When it came to searching for a bridesmaid dress, my fiance came with me to select the color of dress and my 2 bridesmaids tried on dresses and emailed me pictures so we could decide on one. All of these emails were also sent to my MOH and yet it was almost impossible to get any response other than I will wear whatever you want me to. A dress was picked out with my BM and when I told my MOH that she needed to try on her dress and order it by a certain date she said no problem. We went to order it and they said they needed the full amount in order to place the order and she just looked at me and said she didn't have that much (she new the price of the dress almost a month prior when it was selected). I ended up paying for the dress and she said that she would make payments to me to pay me back. I have not yet received a payment.
I then found a dress for her daughter in a second hand childrens store and bought it. I gave it to her and a week later she bought another dress that she said she liked better. She then told me that her daughter had tried both of them on and that she was wearing the one her mom bought her for my wedding.
I asked her how she was planning on making it to my wedding as it is in California. She said that she had several plans that she was working on and that as a last resort she was going to rent a car and have one of her friends come with her to help her take care of her kids so that she could take care of any MOH duties. She just asked me if my fiance and I could put a rental car on our credit card because they will hold more on her debit card but that she could give us cash. I was in the middle of a bunch of things and told her I would have to think about it. Obviously the answer is no for many reasons! One of my BM called her to ask if she had any other back up plans and she said that she is sure that we will do this for her.
On top of all this, we scheduled many times to get together and she always cancelled or when I would see her and try to talk to her about wedding stuff she would blow me off or tell me that she was too busy to talk about it. And now she apparently has time to plan a bridal shower and wants to talk all the time (while I am out of town with family). I specifically told her that if she was going to do it at a restaurant that I do not eat food from buffets and she went ahead and called all my friends and told them that it is going to be a this buffet type place.
My fiance just told me that he has never liked her and wished that I would fire her from our wedding party. I do plan on talking to her about the financial situation as soon as I am home but is there anyway to correctly handle this? Is it appropriate to "fire" her and can I ask for the dress back since I paid for it?
Sorry it is so long! Just don't know what to do!!!