I asked my furture brother In laws girlfriend to be a bridesmaid in my wedding coming up in May. She got pregant and has been difficult ever since.
All of my other bridesmaids went the weekend after Thanksgiving to try on dresses (she had the baby by then), she told me she was going to try and come but never showed up. There was no phone call, text message, email , or anything after the fact said about her missing the appointment.
I started asking her when she wanted to go find a dress and she continued to put me off. When I talked to Davids Bridal they told me she needed to go by mid January to make sure there was enough time to get her dress in before the wedding and have it altered. I told her my Fiance and I were going to be in town for Christmas and I wanted to know if she would go with me to find a dress. My furture brother in law decided that I was harrassing her and cussed me out and told me that she will go when she wants and if its in February or March that it was her choice not mine. My fiance stepped in and told my brother in law to be that he needed to call him about this and asked him to call. My furture brother in law never called and complettly ignored the request.
The topic was dropped for about a month. My Matron of Honor and her daughter were going to be in town and wanted to know if I could meet them at Davids Bridal to find a flower girl dress. I thought this would be a perfect time for my bridesmaid to come find a dress, so I again asked her if she would go. She gave me every reason in the book, I don't have a baby sitter - I offered to watch my nephew while she tried on dresses, my dad is coming into town that night - I said we could go before he comes, I don't have the money to pay for the dress - I found several ways for her to cover the cost of the dress, my furture mother in law was talking to me online the entire time I was getting these excusses and even offered to pay for the dress and have her graudually pay back the money. In a round about way I told her that my future mother in law offered to pay for the dress and things hit the fan. Again I was attacked by my future brother in law and he accused me of asking my mother in law to pay for the dress - which I never even suggested to her - and that I needed to back off and leave them alone. Again my fiance stepped in and told his brother to call him and again he never did. She finally agreed to go try on dresses and she was going to ask her parents for the money to pay for it. We went and she found a dress that she and I both liked and ordered it one size smaller than what she was trying on in the store.
The dress came in a month later and she went to pick it up. I got a text saying that she needed to order the dress in a smaller size and the smaller size was 3 sizes smaller than the dress she ordered. I left it and called Davids Bridal about it and they assured me that they would take care of it and that it was physically impposible to drop 3 sizes in a month that it would be about a 60 to 70 lbs drop for their dresses.
While I was online she sent me an instant message and said that DB could not get her dress in the smaller size in before the wedding. So she started asking for other dresses and choose my mothers dress. I told her that the dress she now wanted was the dress my mother ordered and that I did not want her to have the same dress as my mother. She got really upset and told me that there was no way that DB could alter the dress to the size she needed. She also told me that because my mother and her dress would be different colors it would look nothing a like, I told her again that I didn't want her to have the same dress.
I called DB and talked to the manager and she told me that there were new dress styles and that they would call her and set up and alterations appointment along with suggesting she try on some of the other dresses. The manager also told me that she saw my bridesmaid when she picked up the dress and that she could only go down one size if that.
Things were taken care of by DB and my bridesmaid had an appointment the following week and said she would let me know what happens. I also asked the manager from DB to call me after she left to let me know how things went. After the appointment the manager called me and told me that my bridesmaid was going to keep the dress she had and that it was going to be altered. I asked if everything that needed to be done could be done since they had said they cannot take it in 3 sizes. The manager told me that the only things that needed to be was to have the shoulder straps taken up and have the dress hemed. So the dress did not have to be taken in.
It has been a couple of weeks since my bridesmaid went and I still haven't heard from her. I sent her a message about my nephew and she has ignored me. I don't know what to do. I would appreciate any adivce you have.