So this is how it goes. We're actually polyamourous. There are 4 of us looking to get married/handfasted to our primaries; married legally via the double wedding - our other set is a same-sex couple and then to bind all 4 of us together in a handfasting ceremony. The thing is, my family is EXTREMELY strict Christian as is one of my girls' mom. My mother will probably be furious for even thinking about it. But if we do the double wedding as discussed there are only a few states/areas that allow same-sex marriages. That limits our choices. We currently live in Oklahoma. But the closest state that allows it looks like Iowa. From the research I've done anyway. Hopefully we'll have more options by the time we actually get married. No one has proposed yet, but there is serious talk in the air and I'm trying not to get too excited.
All three of my other partners are pagan, the other girls are witches (white and green) and my primary (the boy) is a spirit warrior. I don't really currently have a religion, but recently I've been leaning more towards Buddhism or Native American faith. I may end up making mixed beliefs into a singular faith for me. The only thing is... I'm not entirely certain how we should approach it all. There's a lot of factors to combine and while I told all of them that our hearts will more than likely be more in the handfasting than the wedding itself. If no one is Christian but our families... should be just do the handfasting ceremony with a few witnesses and tell them we just got eloped? If it happens in another state and no one from my or her family can make it... should we add elements of our REAL faiths in the ceremony instead?
I actually got married once before, so this is a second wedding for me. i'm the only one in the group that's had any experience with this sort of thing, but it was a completely christian ceremony (my ex-husband was Christian and I knew it would make my mom happy) and I don't even know where to get ideas for the handfasting ceremony at OR how to get a local preist/priestess to do our ceremony if we're in another state. Any information at all will be helpful even if it doesn't end up getting implemented.