Around the time that I sent out my wedding invitations, my dad requested a few last minute add-ons:1. My dad's great aunt and her family (whom we had met a handful of times but haven't seen in at least 10 years)2. A distant relative who apparently knew my grandfather, but whom we had never met until my grandfather's funeral a couple of years ago. We didn't keep in touch after that initial meeting, until they recently moved to Canada. (They looked us up because we're their only relatives here.) My parents didn't even think to put these people on the original invite list, but my very overbearing grandmother demanded that we add them. So I did, since there weren't very many and I didn't feel like starting WWIII.When my dad gave the distant relative (#2) his invitation, he alluded to the fact that in his old village, EVERYONE in the village participates in the tea ceremony. NOW my dad wants me to include these people in the tea ceremony. (Or rather, he's afraid that my grandmother will, and he's not going to against her.) I'm really upset. If my parents won't back me up on it, there's no way I can say no, but I feel really uncomfortable with the idea. I had originally been planning to pour tea only for the people who have actually had a meaningful part of my growing up - my parents, grandmother, and my parents' siblings. To honour people I don't even know in this way seems like a huge farce to me. I even told my mom (who's a lot more understanding), "Fine, I'll do it, but just for the lai see."Thanks for letting me vent.
Baby #2: Surprise BFP 9.19.12, EDD 5.24.13, natural m/c 10.19.13 at 9w