Motzi

bhorowitz

Who is saying the motzi at your wedding?  The rabbi suggested my fiancee do it.   The other option is my father or grandfather...  wanted to see what others are doing..

Shoshie

My zayde wasn't able to be there -- so we had my two grandmothers say it. We had our parents say the kiddush (mine said it in Hebrew, DH's said it in English). HTH! 

Knottie_22381855

Really, the rabbi suggested your fiance?  I've only ever seen the elder close male family member do it.  I wish I had a grandfather at my wedding to do it, but, we didn't.  Glenn's uncle did it.  I would have preferred my uncle, but Glenn's uncle, who was quite a handful, made it very clear that he was doing it and wouldn't accept it not being him. 

Danaz1

my uncle and great uncle did it.

silversparks

DH and I it together! Neither of us has grandparents and our family members all had other jobs. It also gave us a chance to thank everyone for coming and point them in the right direction of the food stations. Then we did the motzi, and we asked the venue to provide us with honey, as it's a custom for a couple to use honey instead of salt during the 1st year of marriage. It was amazing, I highly, highly, highly recommend it!

october010bride

Not sure yet but probably fi's zaydie since he will be the oldest male in attendance.

2dBride

Ok, I'm pretty sure this is not the traditional response, but my ex-husband is doing it.  He will in fact be the oldest male present.

alinaandjared

My maternal grandfather and his maternal grandfather did the motzi together.... my grandpa was reeally cute and made like 6 or 7 slices while we all sat and waited

slbriz34

Tradition dictates eldest male relative, which for most (if they are lucky) is a grandfather; otherwise a great-uncle, uncle, etc. etc. If both your grandparents are alive, then I'd have both men do it; otherwise the living relative.  If he (or they) opt not to or won't be at your ceremony, then perhaps the honor should go to your fathers. You both can be at the table to take the first pieces after the blessing is said.  For us, since FI's family isn't observant, I'll suggest his dad first but if he's not up to doing it, then it'll probably be our rabbi.

penaltyshot

We had 3 uncles and my Mom's first cousin do it together. Both my living great-uncles would have participated as well, had they been able to make the trip.