My wedding is is going to be taking place where I grew up so my family and I have taken the reins on the planning and but have always keep the in-laws in the loop with the plans, but haven't exactly expressed any interest in the planning. The whole time my parents have said that they want to make me a nice but not over the top wedding. So to bring you up to speed, my parents have asked the in laws for some financial help with the wedding (pretty much to cover the costs of their guests). At this point, they have not accepted or declined my family's request. My future MIL keeps on saying she wants to have an out of town dinner and brunch the next morning. This is a nice gesture, but not necessary ( and frankly not all that expensive). We are trying to convey to her that there will not be that many OOT guests from either side and we rather she just contribute the money that she would spend on the food towards the wedding. Even my FI has conveyed to her this that he doesn't want any dinners or a brunch. Please help!