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jm.ourwedding2010

Hello,My fiance and I are getting married on October 17, 2010 in Sonoma California.We are both Jewish, though more on the reformed side. Even though we are not getting married in a Temple, we would still like to have a traditional wedding. We will be getting married with a Rabbi and under a chuppah, with the breaking of the glass.I am wondering what other traditions are done in Jewish weddings? Thanks a bunch for all your help,Jaime

Shoshie

Welcome Jamie!Many of us here own a copy of Anita Diamant's: New Jewish Wedding. It is an AWESOME resource for traditions at Jewish weddings -- it explains everything so you can decide how you want to incorporate them

october010bride

Hello and welcome! I agree with Shoshie about picking up Anita's book... its fantastic. Also, once you meet with a rabbi he/she can help you decide that traditions you might want to follow. In the mean time just googling Jewish wedding traditions will help give you some ideas.

Rachiemoo

Welcome to the board! I third the recommendation of "The New Jewish Wedding" by Anita Diamant. Another resource I found helpful was the Chabad website. Though it may be a little more traditional than you're used to, they explain a lot of the traditions thoroughly and meaningfully. [url]http://www.chabad.org/generic_cdo/aid/448431/jewish/The-Jewish-Wedding.htm[/url] Also - your Rabbi should be a great resource as well!

slbriz34

After you've done your research and you and your FI decide what you want and don't want to do, then when you sit down with your rabbi to finalize your ceremony, tell him (or her) what you want to get out of your ceremony and what traditions you'd like to add to the day. There are so many; we are not doing some and doing others - our ceremony will be a reflection of how we want to celebrate our day (rather than doing X for mom or Y for so-and-so, etc.).  GL.

courtneybrooke921

Hi & welcome!!! I'm in the same boat - google + our rabbi have been really helpful in putting together are ceremony (which I'm currently really figuring out!)  

jm.ourwedding2010

Thank you everyone for your ideas and recommendations. I will look into getting the book and of course google. I always look over the obvious :)The Rabbi is our next challenge. My Rabbi was in NY and now lives in Hawaii. Matt's Rabbi is here in San Francisco, but they haven 't spoken since his Bar Mitzva back in '93. Decisions, decisions, decisions...Thanks Again!!!Jaime