Some of my guests are asking to bring dates to my wedding, I know for etiquette reasons, you normally are supposed to allow, but for frum reasons, the ceremony is separate seating, which is pending, I'm trying to convince my Dad to allow it, reception is not, but dancing is separate. Also for budget reasons, we can't afford to have extra guests.
One of my friends recently asked me if she could bring a date, and I said I don't think so, and then she went off on me about how rude it is, and I have to invite peoples dates. But I don't really understand, for a good portion of the wedding they can't be with each other, and if I can't afford it, I'm not going to go over my budget. I just told her after a long manipulative conversation, as we get the rsvps, and we have openings we will allow people to bring dates, depending on length and seriousness of relationship first. Just clarifying, engaged couples are invited regardless.
What is the proper etiquette for orthodox weddings, and whats a better way to handle the question?