We are having a conservative ceremony and the officiating rabbi has already told us she can do the ceremony but cannot attend the reception unless it is kosher (which it's not). we told her it would be kosher style, and i feel like the rabbi and I have different ideas of what kosher-style means.
my thoughts were: no shell fish/pork/etc. and no meat and dairy on the same plate. the caterer also provides a strictly kosher meal option for those who need it (maybe 1 or 2 people attending the wedding). i plan on doing a shared plate for dinner, beef and fish, and possibly having a non-dairy, kosher dessert option in addition to our regular cake, so that we accomodate as many guests as possible.
i think the rabbi's take on kosher-style is not serving any non-kosher meat (i.e. just serving fish/vegetarian/dairy). i obviously don't want to offend her, but if she's not going to attend the reception anyway...is there really a problem with what I'd be serving?