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puresugaar
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Shabbat and sundown question
We are still in the very early stages of planning our wedding, but I am already stressing about pictures regarding sundown. What is the norm? We are looking at a November wedding where the ceremony would be outside overlooking the beach and the reception would be indoors. In November the sunset is supposed to be around 5pm. I really don't want to break tradition of the bride and groom seeing each other before the ceremony, but I'm not sure how else to do it so we're not all taking pictures in the dark since we're in this gorgeous location. We are looking at Veteran's Day weekend where most people have Monday off, so my mom suggested having it on Sunday afternoon instead (so we don't have to worry about sundown). DF is not a fan of that idea because he's worried that not everyone will get it off, plus I don't love the idea of a Sunday night party. What's your opinion? Break tradition and see each other before the ceremony for the sake of good pictures? Any help is appreciated, thanks in advance!
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Re: Shabbat and sundown question
Many Jewish weddings take place on Sundays, especially in the summer (like mine), because we cannot get married before sundown on Saturday. We decided to get married on a Sunday instead, since sundown is so late in June!
If I understand what I've read, including at chabad.org and New Jewish Wedding, photos of observant weddings I've seen, and other sources, most traditionally, the bride doesn't attend the ketubah signing. Male relatives sign it for her, and she receives it under the chuppah.
[QUOTE] <strong>If I understand what I've read, including at chabad.org and New Jewish Wedding, photos of observant weddings I've seen, and other sources, most traditionally, the bride doesn't attend the ketubah signing. Male relatives sign it for her, and she receives it under the chuppah.</strong>
Posted by ElisabethJoanne[/QUOTE]
<div>That is not correct for reform and conservative weddings... maybe for Hasidic/Orthodox weddings but not for a majority of Jewish weddings that take place. </div>
[QUOTE]If I understand what I've read, including at chabad.org and New Jewish Wedding, photos of observant weddings I've seen, and other sources, most traditionally, the bride doesn't attend the ketubah signing. Male relatives sign it for her, and she receives it under the chuppah.
Posted by ElisabethJoanne[/QUOTE]Wow, I've never heard of this at all! Traditionally, the bride and groom meet to sign the ketubah together. Our rabbi even asked us each if we were coming into this marriage of our own desire. After the bride and groom sign the ketubah, the groom lowers the veil over the bride's face, so that he knows he is going to be marrying the correct girl.
Lines for the Rabbi, Bride, Groom or anyone else are all modern additions to the custom.
I have seen weddings where the space was set up for both the ketubah signing and bedekin and the chuppah in one area, so the couple did the grand entrance, walk down the aisle, great reveal, AND then the ketubah/bedekin/chuppah. Might be a compramise if you want it.
Edit to add: We had a Sunday wedding. It was great! We booked the space until 10pm but people did start to leave around 9 (tish had been at 3, so that was already a 6 hour celebration). I was so tired, I didn't mind that we wrapped up earlier than planned. And it gave our staff extra time to clean up.