Okay ladies, My FI called off the wedding and said we need to focus on our relationship! I get that because of myself being depressed, my saddness grew and took over my life and finally I am out of my depression and ready to continue on with life but I can't becasue I have nearly destroyed it! We are getting back to us falling in love with each other all over again and it's taken 2 weeks to do that, FI's grades are improving and we are talking more than we ever have in the past 2 months! I feel like the wedding should be back on but he's scared that I will neglect our relationship again!(I guarantee I won't!) I want to marry him and he wants to marry me he's just scared that I will somehow become sad again! How can I convince him in 1 month( our wedding is in 4months and 7 days away!!!) that he should have no fear in calling the wedding back on???
Thanks for the help and for reading so much!
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Thank you for understanding, if he agrees to continue on with the wedding ceremony then I will post and ever estatic post!!
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[QUOTE]First off, I'm so sorry to hear this news :( I can't imagine what you're going through right now. It must be completely heartbreaking to hear this only 4 months away from your wedding when you have so much already paid for and lined up. There are several red flags that I'm seeing here, the main one being that at some point you fell out of love with one another and consider 2 weeks to be a long enough guarantee that everything is back on track again. Were you depressed when your fiance proposed to you? How long ago did he propose? How long have you two been together and how long have you been engaged? Have you felt like your relationship has been deteriorating throughout your engagement? These questions are essential to understanding the timeline of your relationship and why he has decided to pull the plug now, as opposed to having a longer engagement or waiting to propose until your relationship was on more solid ground. Regardless of what these answers are, when someone makes a decision like this there is no "convincing" them of otherwise. Either he is having doubts about your relationship or ultimately can't commit to the idea of marrying you and won't admit it. Trying to force him to feel different will only end badly, and if you truly want your relationship to work you will need to prove to him over time that it can and will last. Clearly he needs more evidence of that than what he has right now. Again, I'm so sorry. :(
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