I feel guilty.. Mini-moon instead?

hmacsine

I was planing on going on a 7-day cruise for my honeymoon but I'm now leaning towards a mini-moon. I feel guilty about "burdening" my mom with watching my children for 7-days. My mom offered to pay for the honeymoon and to babysit.  I don't know if she can handle all 3 of them. My mother is what I call a "drive-by" grandma. She comes to our house to visit with toys and clothes but she doesn't have them overnight or take them on outings. Also, I think I would miss them too much. I know most of you don't have kids but What do you think?

Madisonpenny

How about you ask your mom to take the kids for  a weekend and see how it goes?  It would give your mom the chance to have a "practice run" and it would help the kids get use to sleeping over at grandma's.

[Deleted User]

Madison is very wise. Having her do a "trial run" would be a great idea.  

I don't think your mom would have made this generous offer without thinking it through.  Maybe you could tell her how you're feeling about it.  I'm sure she is more than willing or she wouldn't have offered.

butterflyjumper1

madison is so wise! if your mom can handle them for a weekend with no problems, i think that would make you feel better about her watching them for your entire honeymoon. 

if you are worried about missing them, maybe you could compromise a little - there are many 5-day.night cruises out there that would still give you the full experience of a real and exciting honeymoon, but you wouldn't be away from your kiddos for quite as long. 

i don't think your mom would have offered in the first place if she didn't mean it - and a honeymoon is a big, big deal! you should do exactly what you want to  

michelle11988

I don't think your mom would have offered if she didn't mean it and know what the responsibility was going into it.  I think you should go on the 7-day cruise and have a great time with your husband and relax and enjoy the week to your selves.  Maybe do a trial run as Madison suggested to put everyone at easy.

avsfan33

Just pointing out the obvious, you do realize your mom raised you right?

Anyway, ask her to take them for a weekend and see how it goes.

MeaganR12

I really don't think your mom would have offered if she didn't want to do it. I agree with PPs that the weekend trial run might be a good idea. I would definitely do a week. 

Elinetrouwt

I felt guilty about the cost of our HM until we thought... It's a once in a lifetime thing, we won't make a trip this big for at least the next 20 years, maybe never, and what better opportunity?

A trial run is a good idea. If it fails, is there some sort of holiday camp that you'd feel comfortable sending them to and where they'd want to go? (I don't know their ages, obviously). Is there maybe some niece that you could ask to help your mom out for a little pay?

BmoreBride311

Do the trial run and then re-evaluate? If it seems like a lot, maybe do a 4 or 5 night cruise. Those are still very fun!

Madisonpenny

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[QUOTE]Just pointing out the obvious, you do realize your mom raised you right? Anyway, ask her to take them for a weekend and see how it goes.
Posted by avsfan33[/QUOTE]

But she wasn't at the age she is now. Lots of things have changed I'm sure, including her energy level.