Kinda bummed.

lobster93

My Fl and I have planned on a small wedding from day one, but out of the 15 of my family members invited, only 3 of them are actually coming.

edw7479

In Response to Re:Kinda bummed.:[QUOTE]My Fl and I have planned on a small wedding from day one, but out of the 15 of my family members invited, only 3 of them are actually coming. Posted by lobster93[/QUOTE]


Kinda bummed? I'd be seriously bummed! I'm sorry! Why are so few coming? Are they legitimately busy or is there some family drama attached?

LindzMarie19

I'm so sorry to hear this .  i'm also wondering if there's family drama involved or whatever, because that seems a little odd that so few from your side are coming.....

melntaitt

I'm sorry honey; why aren't they attending?

I know it's small consolation but those three that are making the trip and taking the time and will make it special for you.

mashavoo

oh this sucks..could be the drama like the other girls mentioned. same thing is happening to me...we're having a small wedding and there's about 20 people on his side who said there not coming

i found it strange...now i know why..stupid family problems and we get the blunt of it..its just selfishness on the family..so there not coming...maybe find out whats going on...just to get answers..that what i did

lobster93

Actually, most of my family is out of state, but, they are only 3 hours away. Fl's best man is flying in from Okinawa, Japan to be here. I'm like, he can fly from all the way over there and my family can't even drive 3 lousy hours to be here?? I know that sounds bad but dang..



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MiksChick23

I'm sorry to hear this. Most of our family is also 3 hours away. Almost all of mine is coming, but I had a sad feeling that much of FI's will not. Atleast our parents and siblings will be there. Which family members aren't coming?

kelsey+brandon

I'm sorry!! Sometimes people can be so lame!

lobster93

Most of the ppl who aren't coming are Aunts, Uncles and cousins.. Mt sister isn't coming but I fully expected that one. We were never close. I am trying to look at it as less ppl means lass money spent, but I really wanted them to be there. Boo

CvilleClaire

Aw, I'm so sorry.  It's so strange how some people are totally afraid to step out of their little bubble.

lobster93

What pisses me off the most about it is that, whenever I am invited to a family function with them, I always attend. I know these things aren't tit for tat but seriously?? It's hard not to feel this way. We spent all this money to have a nice reception at a quaint little B&B, now I am kinda wishing we had just planned on a restaurant reception and saved the rest.

niknik15

I'd be pissed and go 'zilla on them. Seriously. If it were me, I wouldn't be following ettiquette at all on this one and I would call them all and ask them why they aren't coming. Three hours is nothing. I drive that all the time to see my parents or for a weekend get away. If you are close enough with them that you invited them to your very intimate reception, then they should be there.

jfellows82

I'm so sorry!  I completely understand.  Of my family, only my parents and sister are coming.  I have a big extended family, but they just couldn't be bothered.  It hurts.  Just try to focus on the fact that those who are there love you and support you.  

tyleet87

I'm really sorry to hear this. I'd be heartbroken.

But just remind myself that as long as you and your FI are together that day, that's all that matters.

tamezie

I'm sorry your fam is not supporting you!
 but you know what?
 You are going to have a grand and delicious time anyway!
just cherish the guests you have and next time you get an invite, think twice.

lobster93

@ Tamezie..... that is exactly what I'm thinking!

michelletobin

I agree with Tamezie, if they can't go 3 hours for something so important, its not a birthday party or anything, then I would think twice before I attend their events. That is so selfish. BOOOO on them. So sorry you have that going on. You won't be worried about it on the wedding day though because your focus will be right where it needs to be, on your husband.

magsame

I completely understand! i only have my mom, dad and sister coming to my wedding.  My FI has all his aunts, uncles, grandparents, etc coming. I'm pretty bummed too, but all my family lives up north and his live here or a few hours away. It sucks, but I'll have plenty of pictures to show them!

MMRoberts11

As much as it sucks, at least you know the ones there will be really excited and support you later on.