An update on my bridesmaid problem.

seltonandashlee

So a few weeks ago, I posted on here about a problem I was having with a bridesmaid. 

 

Well, more stuff happened, so here's the update!

 

My fiance and I are moving in together. (Actually, we just got all moved in and the apartment decorated! It's lovely. ) She had a serious problem with this and made sure to voice her opinion. At first, I kept blowing it off cause it's not really her business. Then she came over to help me back and went off about how in the Bible it says not to give the appearance of evil, people are gonna talk, blah blah blah. I was like, first of all, nobody even cares about it? And if they do, they obviously have no lives if they're gonna talk crap. 

 

So I ended up telling her that her behavior as of late was completely inappropriate. I told her that, as a friend, she should be supporting me and my decisions, instead of acting how she does and blah blah blah. I ended up telling her that I honestly didn't even want to be friends anymore. 

 

I feel SO much better now. I just couldn't take anymore of this behavior from my so-called "friend!" 

diamondx423

I have to go through and read your previous post, but some people honestly believe that living together before marriage is a sin and should not be done. She might have thought she had your best interest at heart saying what she said, and maybe you over reacted. Like, I said, I don't remember your original thread though...

EDIT: I found the thread and she probably did think she was doing the right thing trying to get you not to move in together. Albeit annoying, I don't necessarily think she was coming from a bad place. With that said, I think you were looking for any excuse to cut her out of your life and this happened to be it.

midgetthemighty

I too didn't remember your original thread until I looked it up and read the first sentence. Now I remember.

I do have to agree with what diamond said in regards to her possibly looking out for your best interests but with her other issues (from previous post), this probably had to happen.

What was her reaction to you saying you didn't want to be friends anymore?

Sarah0335

I think you did the right thing.  Even if she does not agree with your decision, if she sees that it is making you happy and it is what you want then she should support you regardless.

In this day and age it is very common.  I have already bought a house with my FI. 

At the end of the day, I believe a true friends support each other even when the person is making a bad decision (which I don't think that was).  People need to learn things on their own.  A true friend is also their to help pick up the pieces (without too many "I told you so") if it does end up working out.

sweetcanadian1979

I am glad that you finally were able to find your out. Idc if people think they are looking out for one's best interests imo in no way shape or form is it ok for one to actually tell you how to live your life and not let it drop. I have strong opinions too but i always tell my friends ultimately the decision is theirs and they do not have to listen to me. 

TeamMoriarty

i think it's great if you feel better now.  i know how upset you were from your oirignal post and it seems like this was the last straw for you.  i think it's important that you were honest with her about your feelings.

AnnaKay12

I missed your original thread but I looked it up and read your OP. At the end of it all, I think you may have done the right thing. Glad to hear you're feeling better!

MMRoberts11

I'm glad your feeling good about your decision.  Stuff like that is always rough and feeling better afterwards definitely shows it was the right thing to do.

katelyn26

I definitely think you did the right thing. If she's not going to support you in things outside the wedding how would she be with wedding related things? I'm also living with my fiance (lease starts August 1) and I'm so excited! You should post pics of your new place

SSaltzman87

She sounded like a piece of work, good for you for dropping the dead weight :-)

michellep1

I'm glad this worked out for you!  It must feel good that you still feel this was the right decision; as PPs said thats definitely a sign that you did the right thing.

I'm also curious to know how she reacted.  Did she have any idea this was coming?