Babies?

doeie04

I want a baby so bad. Sometimes I think about it and it seems so far away. And then others it seems closer.

I was going baby crazy for a while and then we talked about when we could start having them (right after the wedding) and I was fine for about a year. Now it is driving me nuts again!

Anyone else feeling the same way?

slbinpink

My little girl is almost 3, and I want another one SO bad... I think about it on a daily basis, seriously. We have decided to wait until after the wedding to start trying for a baby... But I would not be upset if we got pregnant before that. :-)

I can't wait!

mek20

I am baby crazy currently too! I feel like I am seeing them everywhere...and its just a constant reminder that I can't have one..LOL..FI says we need to wait a few more years...but I'm sure I can use my mysterious ways to convince him to have one soon after we get married 

heheh

LindseyLu12

I cannot wait to be a mommy! I've been wanting a baby forever and thank goodness my FI is determined in his career choice or else we would have kids already! lol He brings me back to reality and reminds me how young we are. We both want to be a little bit more stable and settled in somewhere. We will be doing a lot of moving around in the next few years depending on where he gets a job. I'm hoping to start trying for a baby a year after the wedding, depending on where we are in our lives. I can't wait though!

CvilleClaire

From age 23-28, I was baby crazy.  Clearly, my body wanted to procreate! 

From 28-30, I still felt that drive, but it wasn't quite as strong.

At age 31, that feeling just faded away.  I still adore my nieces and nephews and love my friends' children, but the desire to have my own is all but gone.

I think the body tells you when it is in prime baby-making mode.  It think that it's important to acknowledge the drive, but rationalize where you are in your life to help soften the effect on you.

MMRoberts11

My FI and I really want to have kids but we are waiting until after we get married to start trying.  Every now and then I get baby crazy because so many of my friends are having kids or are pregnant (one just found out she's having twins in September).

midgetthemighty

Looks like I get to be the odd ball, but I'm totally fine with that. My FI and I want to wait at least a year and a half after marriage before trying to have kids. We both love kids, but don't want to jump right into it all. I'm excited about being a mom but at the same time I'm scared to death of being pregnant and actually having kids. (Not a big doctor/needle fan). Everyone tells me I'll be fine though, and I believe them.

AshnRobo

No babies! 

Seriously though, I have mirena and we have agreed that after we have been married for a year we will discuss it. If we both want one and both feel we are ready, we will take the mirena out for six months. If it happens, it happens. If not, oh well. Later in life if we think we want one, we're going to adopt. 

I've even considered skipping the six months of no birth control. I have no desire to procreate. 

skybrie

I'm with the last 2 posters.  When we are married I will be 29 and he will be 31.  I have been on BC my entire fertile life and we decided that after 9-18 months I will go off it and we will see what happens.  But I have never been really baby crazy and just started considering kids about a year ago.  I want to travel and do stuff before we have kids. 

julbgordo

Whenever I see a baby or baby things (clothes, toys, whatever) I get all mushy and turn to FI and go "BABY!!!"  And he goes, "later."  LOL.

We talk about kids A LOT.  I have names picked out and I pretty much have my nursery vision all set to go.  That being said, FI and I both have a strong belief that we must be financial VERY stable before having kids.  I'll be 25 when we get married and my only criteria for children is that I want to have my first one before I'm 30.  So I figure we'll be DINK's (duel income, no kids) for a good 3 or 4 years.

bee&bee

I nanny for 3 children and that is good enough for me right now!!  I love that I can give them back at the end of the day, haha.  All joking aside though, FI and I both really want children (I want twins) but not now.  We want at least 1 full year after we get married to just be together to relax, regroup, pay off other debts and enjoy being married.   

kmeinz

I'm in the group of not wanting babies right now. FI and I are having too much fun being young and not tied down (we don't even have a dog). I'll be 26 when we get married and I've been planning on starting to have kids at 28/29.

I do love kids though. FI and I are expecting our first niece or nephew in September and I'm crazy excited to be an aunt. On top of that I work with a lot of young families so I can be around small children as much or as little as I want.

Purple&7

I'm still young and am so not ready for that responsibility. FI and I have things that we want to do before we kids. (finish school, travel) We're hoping to start trying around our 3rd year of marriage. He thinks that we'll have a honeymoon baby, though. I guess we'll see.

centralparkbride

I love babies!! I can not wait to have them.  Twinnies run in FI family...however it works out scientifically he is the next due for them.  We will start trying soon after we get hitched!

sprtychick10

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[QUOTE]<strong>Whenever I see a baby or baby things (clothes, toys, whatever) I get all mushy and turn to FI and go "BABY!!!"</strong>  And he goes, "later."  LOL. We talk about kids A LOT.  I have names picked out and I pretty much have my nursery vision all set to go.  That being said, FI and I both have a strong belief that we must be financial VERY stable before having kids.  I'll be 25 when we get married and my only criteria for children is that I want to have my first one before I'm 30.  So I figure we'll be DINK's (duel income, no kids) for a good 3 or 4 years.
Posted by julbgordo[/QUOTE]

<div>I do the same thing!!! haha. I love babies and can't wait to have kids. But with saying that, FI and I want to enjoy being newlyweds and being married before we have kids because we know when we have them, they are going to get 110% of our attention. I see us trying to have kids 1 1/2 years after we get married.  My brother is expecting his first kid in July so that may help my baby itch. Or not...</div>

julbgordo

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Babies? : My brother is expecting his first kid in July so that may help my baby itch. Or not...
Posted by sprtychick10[/QUOTE]

HAHA!  Yeah, it might make it worse.  Congrats on becoming and auntie and good luck <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-smile.gif" border="0" alt="Smile" title="Smile" />

michellep1

I want them, but I'm ok with waiting.  I'll be 24 when we get married and FI will be almost 26.  I think he wants them sooner than I do, just because he doesn't want to be too old.  However, I have a lot of debt in the form of student loans and I'd rather have a significant portion of it paid off before we start TTC.  I also would rather not have all that responsibility right away, right now we have one cat and even that can be difficult when we want to go away for a few nights. 

I'd be ok with starting when I turn 30, but I know FI doesn't want to wait that long.  My mom didn't have me until she was 36 and my sister was at 38, so I don't see much wrong with waiting awhile, although my mother has been hinting quite a bit that she'd be ecstatic with a honeymoon baby haha.  I can definitely see myself being convinced to start sooner than 30 though because they're just so cute! 

Cassandra999

We want kids, but want to wait as long as possible.  We have a house already but I would rather be a little more financially stable, more savings etc.  and we would rather enjoy our time being (sort of) young, being able to travel before being tied down with a kid.  I wonder how my other friends with young children do it.  It seems like so much work on top of working full time etc.  My only concern is waiting too long could be more risky healthwise.

SheilaDancer43

I had baby fever BAD over this past summer and fall. I actually thought I was prego some time in like October and I was kind of disappointed when I found out I wasn't really pregnant. We weren't even engaged at the time, and he was always like "oh no, baby fever!" Now, he has baby fever. He is 28 and he says he doesnt want to be an old dad so he wants them as soon as possible. He said he wouldn't mind if I got pregnant now. I really want kids, but I dont want to be prego for the wedding and I really want to have married time with just me and him. My mom has told me so many times that married life is different, and I really want to experience that with the FI w/o babies for a little bit. We will probably wait until about a year after we're married.

myfeverplays

I am very baby crazy. We were trying before we were even engaged. I was diagnosed with polycystic ovarian syndrome about a year and a half ago and the doctor told me I could have trouble conceiving, especially the older I got. Ideally I wanted to wait until we were married but we decided that my dream to be a mother was what was most important so we started trying. I did get pregnant but it ended up being a tubal pregnancy so they had to end the pregnancy for my own safety before the tube ruptured. I would have been due the end of this month, actually

We werent allowed to try again until January of this year, he proposed in December 2010 so January came and went and I decided as much as I want it I'm still scared about what happened and it happening again and planning for a wedding  and a baby while working 2 jobs would probably be wayyyyy to stressful. But when that honeymoon comes around.......

doeie04

I am so glad I am not the only one!!

We aren't going to wait much after the wedding. Everyone would be happy with a honeymoon baby! I have been waiting for almost 5 years and I think that is reasonable. We won't have any debt except for our house. I am paying all my debt off before the wedding. He has none. (That is mostly why we are waiting so long to get married.) We are hoping to apply gifted money to our baby fund. Even though Chad has a substantial savings account.

I have always wanted to be a young mother. My Mom had 3 kids by the time she was 24. I wanted to have at least one kid by the time I was 24, but that didn't happen. I will be about 28 before we have our first child.

courtneyclare103

I'm definitely in the waiting camp. I very much want kids, but I want them later. I love being young and having no responsibilities beyond my job/bills/etc. Also, even though FI and I will have been together over six years when we get married, we will have essential "lost" 1 and 1/2 kid free years with him being in St. Maarten for school, so I think we will wait about two years before we have kids. I'd like to have one before I'm 30 and I'll be 27 when I get married. Our parents would be happy with a honeymoon baby though! FI's mom is already knitting baby blankets!

AnnaKay12

I'm sort of torn on this one. Sometimes I'm completely baby crazy! FI had two nephews and one niece born in the past 3 years, and a few of my friends are starting their families as well, so babies are everywhere! I don't want to start TTC before the wedding, but the baby crazy part of me wants to start the first night of the honeymoon

After a short periods of being baby crazy, I remember how much sense it would make to wait. I want to go to grad school, but I won't be able to leave a full-time job in order to do it and still be financially ok. I think it would be incredibly difficult to be working full time, going to grad school, and pregnant and I don't know if I could do it all! I know some who have, but they handle stress a lot better than I do.

But then, I think about how much I want a PhD, and how long we'd have to wait to have kids if we waited until I finished a masters AND a doctrate first. *sigh* This is why I'm torn. I don't want to wait too long.

As far as FI is concerned, we could start trying tomorrow and he'd be okay with that

DrPB2b13

I'm kind of on both sides.  I am insanely baby crazy, and if I had any money to spare I would have a REALLY hard time keeping myself from buying some of the super cute clothes and toys and other items I work with daily.

On the other hand, I am nowhere near ready to be a parent.  I'm looking at 6-7 more years of school!  That said, I want to start before I'm 30 - we are planning on starting our family 3-4 years after we get married, which will make us 28/29.

I'm super excited for it!

Abeja1226

We decided to have a baby before getting married, we were engaged so to us it didn't matter.  We would have wanted a baby at 25 RIGHT after we get married but I will be in nursing school and the timing wasn't right!  We decided to "not do anything to prevent it" for a couple of months and woohoo we had a BEAUTIFUL little girl.  The timing is perfect because she will be a year old and I am going back to school this Fall and it is a good age for her to go to Daycare finally.  I want another baby so bad but we are waiting until I am out of school, so probably 1-2 years after we get married we will try again

P.S. being a parent is THE BEST.  And having a baby with someone you absolutely love (and having a little family) is amazing

sleblanc72

We both want kids but both recognize that we're not ready yet and want to wait until we're completely settled in life with debt paid off and everything.  And we are very much enjoying being able to do what we want when we want, although I must admit every time I'm around my 4 nieces and nephews it makes me look at my FI and say "I want kids " and every time he says "later!"

Carrie1208

We were planning on waiting a little while after getting married. We weren't going to wait that long, a year or so, but now FI's best friend had a baby (1 week ago today!) and FI became totally baby crazy - he has been the whole 9 months waiting for his "nephew" to come. His friend is the first in our group of friends to have a child and I think that's why FI became obsessed. I figure his baby craziness will pass and we'd go back to the original plan of waiting a little while, but then I saw FI hold the newborn last week and I melted!!! So who knows, I guess we'll just see what happens!

midgetthemighty

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[QUOTE]We were planning on waiting a little while after getting married. We weren't going to wait that long, a year or so, but now FI's best friend had a baby (1 week ago today!) and FI became totally baby crazy - he has been the whole 9 months waiting for his "nephew" to come. His friend is the first in our group of friends to have a child and I think that's why FI became obsessed. I figure his baby craziness will pass and we'd go back to the original plan of waiting a little while, but then <strong>I saw FI hold the newborn last week and I melted!!!</strong> So who knows, I guess we'll just see what happens!
Posted by Carrie1208[/QUOTE]

My FSIL is pregnant right now and my FI is so excited about being an uncle that it's absolutely adorable. I'm afraid seeing this will also make me melt. lol We're staying abstinent until our wedding night anyway, but seeing him hold a baby might make it even harder to wait (but we still will...it's very important to us both). I love how excited he is about being an uncle and eventually a father. We talk about it often.

mizzicantwait

We are fine right now with not having kids, but we think about it all the time.

kelsey+brandon

I want a baby so bad!!. I tell FI this all the time and I think if I were really and trully ready, and we were married, FI would be all for it. Right now though, I just have to rationalize that FI is at the very beginning of his career and we both want to own a home and have a dog before we have a baby. I think we'll start trying after we've been married for a year or a year and a half, so I'll be 25 and FI with be 27...26 and 28 sound like good ages to have your first baby to me!

TeamMoriarty

@ myfeverplays, I too, have PCOS and my OBGYN told me that although it is more difficult, there is still a good chance i'll be able to conceive without any help.

Because I just turned 30 and my FI is 32, we will probably start trying within the first year of marriage.  I totally understand the wanting to travel and be without kids for a while, but we have talked about it and we have already had the chance to travel and do lots of fun stuff.  So we will probably start our family fairly soon.  I will have just finished grad school the month before the wedding, and we both have baby fever- even now.  We want to be young and active parents, so although it is scary, and in my head I had always planned that I'd be married for a couple of years first, that plan just doesn't quite fit anymore.