Hey ladies! Long time, no talk. I've been really busy with the new job/house lately and we STILL have no Internet, so I'm around but mostly lurking on my iPhone. However, I just had a situation come up that I need to talk about... My sister (and MOH) just called me from my mom's house where she was spending the weekend. She, my other sister and my mom were talking about the options for my bridal shower. She asked if I would like it April 28 (no, because that's my weekend on) or May 5 (sure!). Then she says, "We were thinking of having it at the bowling alley. We could close off the lounge for the day so we wouldn't be bothered by the open bowlers...blah, blah". Dead silence from me... ...a little background. My mom is employed at the bowling alley and has been for about 13 years. She's a waitress and recently promoted to bar manager. Because of her employment, our family gets "perks" so to speak. Free bowling and shoes, discounted food and drinks, etc. We've had my younger sister's birthday parties there many times because, well it's fun and, with the discounts, ends up being cheaper for my parents. So I guess when it came to planning my bridal shower these "perks" came to mind. At least as far as the food, drinks and rental of the lounge being cheaper is concerned. (We aren't planning on actually bowling obviously) So after my moment of dead silence my sister says, "You're not into it. I told mom you wouldn't like the idea." *Sigh* So then I start trying to explain myself... ...maybe it's vain or selfish somehow, but to me a bowling alley lounge isn't the classiest place to have a shower...of any kind. It's dark (think, no windows), dingy and smells like stale beer and cigarettes and the oil the use on the lanes. Then there's the food. Bowling alley fare? For a bridal shower? Pizza and pop is good for a kids birthday but not so much for a shower in my opinion. Lastly, and maybe the biggest reason the idea turns me off, FI's family (mom, sisters) are really conservative, as in, no drinking/dancing/etc. Regardless of if alcohol is served to us while we are in the lounge, we're still "in the bar" which I think would make them feel very uncomfortable. And I don't want that. I'm already afraid that the wedding itself is going to put them over the edge of their comfort zone (open bar, DJ, dancing), I certainly don't want to push it. *Sigh again* My sister said it was okay, they were just suggesting but now I feel like an ungrateful bridezilla because I spoke up about my concerns. I know it was my mom's first choice because of the money saving probability so that makes me sad. I don't want them to feel like it has to be an expensive, lavish affair...but...I don't know. If money is the concern I should offer to help because I can...I just hadn't thought about it yet. What do you girls think? Was I wrong to feel that way? What would you do? TIA!!!