I know its early to be thinking about invites, but I'm probably designing my own so I've been trying to put together the wording so I have it out of the way when I want to do the design. FI's parents and my parents will be contributing equally to our wedding, as well as FI and I, in a ratio of 2:2:1 (each set of parents is contributing twice as much as FI and myself). Therefore, I thought the wording should have both sets of parents in the typical
Mr. and Mrs. Father OfTheBride and
Mr. and Mrs. Father OfTheGroom
request the honor of your presence....bla bla bla.
My mother is protesting the traditional Mr. and Mrs. Husband's Name situation because she prefers to go by Ms. since she thinks its stupid that men don't have a prefix that signifies their marital status, so why should women. She said she wants it to say Douglas and Loretta LastName. I wouldn't have a problem with it if we were having a less traditional, modern wedding. We're not. It's a traditional Saturday evening, church ceremony, ballroom reception wedding. I really believe that the invitation sets the tone for the entire wedding and the rest of the invitation will be equally formal, so this will look out of place. I know I sound like a stuffy PITA, but I just really like tradition!
I understand that those who pay have the final say. However the portion FI and I are contributing could easily cover the invitations and then some, and I will most likely be designing/putting together/addressing the invitations myself. My mom said she would help me with the addressing, but if FI and I move out of state, it'll be all me.
I don't know if I should just tell her that we're paying for/making the invitations so it's our decision, especially since there wouldn't be the type of wedding we're having without their contributions in other areas. Also, she isn't as into the whole etiquette thing as I am, and frequently on other issues she tells me "it's your day, do what you want" so I'm not so sure why this is different. I've told her it isn't ok for her to make a political statement on my wedding invitations, but she keeps at it.
I found out this weekend that FI told his sister and mother about it, and they think what she wants is funny, so no help from that side since I think they think she can't be serious. I don't know if I'm looking for advice, just to vent, or for someone to tell me I'm being ridiculous, but if you read all this thank you. I'd appreciate anything anyone has to say about this, since I'm totally lost as to what to do.
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