Anyone read the "Wedding Mistakes" article on Yahoo! today?

littleluckypenny

Here's a link:

http://shine.yahoo.com/financially-fit/5-costly-wedding-mistakes-142900760.html

I can get on board on some of these, but I don't agree with some.

1.  I think the invitation conveys the formality of the occasion.  No offense to anyone who sends invitations electronically, but I would think the wedding is pretty casual.

2.  Cupcakes don't always save money.

3.  I would rather the couple donate to a cause they like in private (if they want to go this route) and not associate it with a favor, because not everyone approves of the same charities and organizations.  I wouldn't want money donated in my name to a cause I don't agree with.

CvilleClaire

I think the charity thing is fine, if worded properly.

Saying you are donating in someone else's name seems to the be the problem.  I think it's totally find for a couple to say that they've made a donation in lieu of favors. 

Logistically, I always wondered how the "in your names" thing would go with a huge group.  It would have to be "in honor of John and Jane Doe's marriage" or something like that.

midgetthemighty

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[QUOTE]I think the charity thing is fine, if worded properly. Saying you are donating in someone else's name seems to the be the problem.  I think it's totally find for a couple to say that they've made a donation in lieu of favors.  Logistically, I always wondered how the "in your names" thing would go with a huge group.  It would have to be "in honor of John and Jane Doe's marriage" or something like that.
Posted by CvilleClaire[/QUOTE]

I agree completely. Favors aren't even technically necessary, so it's the Bride and Grooms choice to spend the money how they want.

I could be biased, because we're doing this (as an <em>additional</em> favor to our B&G baseball cards) but I see no problem with it. In our case, we chose the American Cancer Society because it's very close to both of our hearts and our families are highly involved. Anyone offended can, quite frankly, kiss my booty.

gregamywedding

Really the only thing I don't agree with is the invite thing. I personally could not send my wedding invitations via email, evite, or any other such online thing.

daria24

With the number of inexpensive invite options I think there is no excuse to use electronic invites. I'm fine with electronic STDs but formal invitations? Too many possibly things that could go wrong with that. My cupcakes are costing $2.50 each, versus $5.50+ for cake. I'm not really a fan of charity favors. If you are going to do it, I think a simple mention in the programs, or a single card displayed somewhere are the way to go. I think putting a card at every place setting is waaaaay to showy (which is what a few weddings I've been to have done).

Megbo2012

I find articles like this far from helpful. 

kelsey+brandon

I disagree on the cupcake thing too.

At a nice bakery here, cake starts at $4/slice, cupcakes from a good bakery start at $3.00 - both for the very basics. That's not a 50% savings.

Elizabeth80

This! Most of what she spoke of I've heard a million times on TK. I guess its good info. though if you don't have access to a wedding forum.

*Truthfully I spent most of my time trying to figure out how she had such amazing eyebrows and planning my next appt with my stylist! haha!

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[QUOTE]I find articles like this far from helpful. 
Posted by Megbo2012[/QUOTE]

HarperBargo

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[QUOTE]I find articles like this far from helpful. 
Posted by Megbo2012[/QUOTE]

I agree with this. Weddings are becoming more and more individualized which is awesome. I think that a wedding should be about the couple, their families, and friends. It is about how the couple chooses to celebrate. If a charity has a special meaning to the couple I think that is great. Saving money is really area dependent. I know cupcakes for us would have been a little bit more than cake. And a venue we looked at for a Friday night would not have saved us that much money. But I do agree that invites should be mailed. I got invited to a wedding via email and I found it really odd and cheap.   

littleluckypenny

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[QUOTE] Anyone offended can, quite frankly, kiss my booty.
Posted by midgetthemighty[/QUOTE]

*Made me smile*

Zimsgirl

I'm fine with donating to a charity but if they said they donated in my name I wouldn't like it. I'd rather not see favors and have them just keep that they donated to themselves.

^ Edited for clarity

I disagree about cupcakes too. They aren't 50% less than cake. 

I don't like doing electronic invites and save the dates. You should stick with tradition/etiquette for that.

I agree with the booze and discount thing. We've asked for military discounts and granted not everyone had one but we got a couple hundred off of our DJ so that was nice

midgetthemighty

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Anyone read the "Wedding Mistakes" article on Yahoo! today? : *Made me smile*
Posted by littleluckypenny[/QUOTE]

You're welcome. :)

Megbo2012

This article just seems very "OMG I have the best weight loss plan ever that you never thought of!" that only says cut out soda, candy, any over-indulgences and exercise.  Thanks, I've never heard that one before.

I can think of ten other ways to cut the budget.  I'm sure some things wouldn't work for everybody because some people want to splurge on certain things that are important to them.  

E-vites seem really cheap to me, I don't care who I'm offending by saying that.  Not everyone has email.  I'm pretty sure NO ONE on this board "grew up" with email, it was something invented later on.  It's just so bizarre to me.  STD evites wouldn't bother me in the slightest but some things should just be mailed.  Better safe than sorry. 

CvilleClaire

I've only gotten one online wedding invitation...from some friends who wanted to be very conscious about consumption with regards to their wedding.   I know that they live a green lifestyle and I thought it was totally fine.

I would have assumed a mother was involved if we got a heavy, engraved card from them.  It wouldn't have felt authentic for that couple.

DrPB2b13

"Wedding mistakes" is such an inappropriate term for this.  A mistake for your wedding is not getting your marriage license, or finding out three weeks later that none of your invites had enough postage.

These are "Potential cost-saving choices that may or may not work for you."  Seriously, what the heck.  And anyone can find these with a quick Google search.

Zimsgirl26

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[QUOTE]This article just seems very "OMG I have the best weight loss plan ever that you never thought of!" that only says cut out soda, candy, any over-indulgences and exercise.  Thanks, I've never heard that one before. I can think of ten other ways to cut the budget.  I'm sure some things wouldn't work for everybody because some people want to splurge on certain things that are important to them.   E-vites seem really cheap to me, I don't care who I'm offending by saying that.  Not everyone has email.  I'm pretty sure NO ONE on this board "grew up" with email, it was something invented later on.  It's just so bizarre to me.  STD evites wouldn't bother me in the slightest but some things should just be mailed.  Better safe than sorry. 
Posted by Megbo2012[/QUOTE]
I had an email when I was younger (middle school maybe? not sure) it was catluvr@.... god I was cool haha

noisulli22

Some of this I agreed with like I'm getting cupcakes from a local baker and it did save me 50% off from getting a wedding cake, she actually gives the anniversary part to the couple free as a gift but its a small local baker, not a big name bakery. Also, I'm not doing wedding favors because every wedding I've attended ppl either left them on the table or threw them in the trash. I'm not doing a sit down dinner, we are doing hor d'oevours. Also if ppl really want to get married then book places early and if you move the wedding date then move your deposit. I placed my deposit on my venue in Dec 2010 for a $2000 and that includes clean up, tables, chairs, and linens, now it will cost $5000 to rent the place. I'm not sending electronic invites, come on now, heck I have older relatives with no computer access so how will they get their invites?? You don't have to spend a million dollars on invites but it you do spend a million dollars then its your money. I view my wedding as a huge party for friends and family to come out and celebrate. But in the end money is being spent on a wedding whether it's $2,000 or $200,000. 

doeie04

These articles are a joke.

I would rather see a couple donate to their favorite charity (but not broadcast it everywhere) than waste money on some dealybob that everyone will toss or leave on the table.