"I'm Going to Strangle Him" Moments

daria24

So...we've come to an impasse. Over what? Which stamps to use on the invites & RSVP cards. FI is an interactive designer, so he designed all our paper goods. I understand the complete look of something is important to him. But he hates every single stamp the post office offers right now. So he is seriously debating about ordering the custom stamps which cost almost 3X as much as regular postage.

We have the money for it, but I think it's a huge waste of money for something people won't notice. I'm willing to buy Forever stamps instead of the ugly Hawaiian shirt postage stamps for our RSVP cards. But spending $1+ per postage stamp? Are you kidding me?! 

What relatively minor things have you & your FI had a standoff about?

bchbride062012

Oh I have been surprised about what my FI has been rather passionate about. Like for example the way the chairs face for the ceremony. There is a bridge in the background and its a landmark so I thought it was cool. But he doesn't want this bridge in the background of the pictures. What? Now our guests will be facing into the sun if we do what he wants.

Skittles612

Guest list.  Its frustrating because we are on a tight budget and he doesn't realize that more people = more money.  Plus people will be packed like sardines in the reception site if we add any more.  I think I've finally convinced him to be more lenient as we can't afford it. 

There are a few other things he is stubborn on that I actually agreed with, but unfortunately the budget doesn't allow it

HarperBargo

With most of the wedding plans and details FI has been pretty relaxed (as have I). However, when it came to invitations he had very strong opinions. He insisted that we do pocket fold invites. He wanted them very organized and put together. That's what I get for marrying an engineer I guess

acaponi87

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[QUOTE]With most of the wedding plans and details FI has been pretty relaxed (as have I). However, when it came to invitations he had very strong opinions. He insisted that we do pocket fold invites. He wanted them very organized and put together. <strong>That's what I get for marrying an engineer I guess :)</strong>
Posted by HarperBargo[/QUOTE]

Harper--since we're both in Cinci and marrying engineers..does your FI work at GE?

melntaitt

How the guests sit as well!

Both the venue manager and I think two semi-circles facing the gazebo would be a great option but dear FI belives that wouldn't work and he wants them in a straight line. Ughhh.

He's also having a small spat with the reception card box since we're having a bird cage. I got a bird cage for about $15 and was prepared to have a DIY moment, but he is sending it to the florist because it should be "special". Apparently he decided to take a go at it and it, er....didn't work out...

Yeah, 79 days to go and the details are killing us...

janeash

Hmmm not really any of the little details...he is really good with those.  It's only been bigger things.  Right now, it's the price of the florist (he thinks we should DIY them all....even though we will be in Maui so will have DIY everything the morning of....which I don't want to do and don't really trust anyone else to do...except my mom and she is going to be with me all day).

And the alcohol budget.  He still wants a cash bar (because our guestlist is larger than expected and so the food costs more), and I am adamant that we don't have a cash bar.

Both of the issues have reached the point where we are so sick of arguing about it that we are just leaving it be for a few weeks and then we will pick it up again later (hopefully with more open minds!)

kks4471

Favors!  At this point, I don't even want to have favors.  He wants to give to charity, but there isn't really a charity I feel passionate about.  I hope I don't sound selfish, but it's just not something I'm into doing.  So right now we're stuck over favors.

diamondx423

There was one venue that I thought was perfect and he refused to book it. He didn't like the lights in the cocktail hour room. He thought they were 70s. We actually went to a wedding there this winter and he said "oh, they're not that bad". I wanted to smack him.

Its ok though, because I love my venue, but it was still an insane reason to rule out the venue.

michellep1

FI doesn't really give me strangling moments except for the fact that he barely ever has an opinion on anything.  That makes me want to strangle him.  Its weird, I have no problem making important decisions, like ceremony details or the flow of the night, but little things like how to fold a napkin or what chair sashes to use really get me.  These are things that I'd like for FI to say "do this" and I'd let him have his way, but he NEVER has an opinion unless its about something that I don't need his opinion for!

I do have quite a few NWR "I'm going to strange him" moments though.  For example, taking out the trash & not replacing the bag is a big one.  Or doing all the dishes except for two travel mug covers which we need the next morning - WHY NOT JUST FINISH THE JOB!?!?

HarperBargo

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: "I'm Going to Strangle Him" Moments : Harper--since we're both in Cinci and marrying engineers..does your FI work at GE?
Posted by acaponi87[/QUOTE]

Yup. There are 2 other guys in his group that are getting married between now and our date!

AlliJae

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[QUOTE]<strong>FI doesn't really give me strangling moments except for the fact that he barely ever has an opinion on anything.  That makes me want to strangle him.  Its weird, I have no problem making important decisions, like ceremony details or the flow of the night, but little things like how to fold a napkin or what chair sashes to use really get me.  These are things that I'd like for FI to say "do this" and I'd let him have his way, but he NEVER has an opinion unless its about something that I don't need his opinion for</strong>! I do have quite a few NWR "I'm going to strange him" moments though.  For example, taking out the trash & not replacing the bag is a big one.  Or doing all the dishes except for two travel mug covers which we need the next morning - WHY NOT JUST FINISH THE JOB!?!?
Posted by michellep1[/QUOTE]

This EXACTLY!

cwill6212

FI doesn't really give me strangling moments... I think I give them to him! Oopsy! I know I am OCD and I am down to the very last detail on things---but I was the day to be "perfect". Men just don't understand!

As for NWR "I'm going to strange him" moments, my list is growing :P 

acaponi87

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: "I'm Going to Strangle Him" Moments : Yup. There are 2 other guys in his group that are getting married between now and our date!
Posted by HarperBargo[/QUOTE]

Lol I wonder if our FIs work together..mines an aerospace engineer. 

goodine11

These are funny. My FI and I had a spat about colors. What happen is we went to davids bridal to get color swatches. We got three two color combanations. He chose watermelon and tangerine ( David's bridal colors). When we decided to go destination I change the colors to fuschia and orange ( same colors/different shades). He was truely upset. It took half a day for him to understand why I changed the shade. He swore I didn't tell him when I change it. But I did.

diamondx423

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[QUOTE]FI doesn't really give me strangling moments except for the fact that he barely ever has an opinion on anything.  That makes me want to strangle him.  Its weird, I have no problem making important decisions, like ceremony details or the flow of the night, but little things like how to fold a napkin or what chair sashes to use really get me.  These are things that I'd like for FI to say "do this" and I'd let him have his way, but he NEVER has an opinion unless its about something that I don't need his opinion for! I do have quite a few NWR "I'm going to strange him" moments though.  <strong>For example, taking out the trash & not replacing the bag is a big one</strong>.  Or doing all the dishes except for two travel mug covers which we need the next morning - WHY NOT JUST FINISH THE JOB!?!?
Posted by michellep1[/QUOTE]

This makes me breath fire! He also always forgets to wash the lids for pots; WTF they get dirty too!

brittneyh4

Never getting an opinion. He doesn't care about the details like I do, which I get. But when he does give an opinion, it's when I've had my heart set on something and he doesn't care for it (grr).

We're sending invites out in the next couple weeks, and he won't stop adding people to the list! His mom or someone calls and asks if so-and-so can be invited (don't even know their names, neither of us do) and he's like sure! Brittney just ordered extra invites.

Yeah, and it's costing me an extra $70 to do this, and that's before I even get them sent out. He's been fine up until this. We've added 28 extra people in two weeks, when I had the guest list final and have been getting my rentals (tables, chairs etc) all done. He doesn't realize how much work there is to adding more and more.

midgedenver

FI and I fought over the readings. We both wanted ones that weren't overly religious, but he didn't like to two I liked because they were "cliche". He ended up agreeing, though, because they fit us so well.

MMRoberts11

WR: My FI is great at building things in his woodshop.  He's making our cardbox and chair signs and is obsessing that they are perfect!  Any by perfect, I mean completely perfect and doing a TON of variations on stuff but never really finishing them.  I wish he would just finish them already.

NWR: Leaving pop cans where he was most of the evening drives me crazy.  He knows it bothers me and I usually try not to remind him until he sees me ready to flip out over them and then, and only then will he wash them out and put them in the empty container to be returned.