I have a bit of a predicament with the ceremony. I didn't grow up religious but FI sort of did. His mom was really pushing to have a pastor officiate our service and because FI doesn't like to confront his mom, he agreed. I was fine with it, because even though I would have rather had someone we know get ordained, it's not the end of the world. Well, we met with the pastor that FMIL wanted to marry us and she gave us the transcript of the typical ceremony she normally performs. It's not at all what I want. She is a Lutheran pastor and the tone is very religious. I have no problem with religion and I understand that a lot of ladies on this board are religious and I respect that, but it's not what I grew up with. It's not what I pictured for my wedding day at all and I know I will be unhappy with it. The pastor said she is open to revisions but I don't know how much I can change it before she isn't comfortable with it. I also don't think that I can ask someone else to marry us at this point. FMIL would probably flip out and FI wouldn't confront her. So, what would you ladies do? How would you get a ceremony that you were happy with without pissing FMIL off and offending the pastor? (Sorry about the font, I c&p from fb and it's all weird)