Therapy Thursday

MMRoberts11

NFT

janeash

I am sick of arguing with FI about the budget of the wedding.  Yes, he originally budgeted $10,000 but at that time, we were only going to have 15 people.  Now we are up to 35 people that have RSVP'd, our venue can only seat 35 (and we have at least another 5 possible yes's).....thanks to FMIL & FFIL inviting extra people verbally and then telling us we needed to send them an invite cause they had already booked their flights.  We wanted to have an intimate wedding with only our close friends and family and now all these people I have never met are showing up, and we are going to go over our venue capacity and have to move to the bigger space which will cost an extra $3000.

Yes FI, I know that is extra money, but it was YOUR parents who invited those extra people so don't get so cranky at me for the spending being so high!

He also thinks that since we are most likely going to have to pay extra money for bigger space, we should limit booze/food.  We have big drinkers coming and they are paying $1500 to fly to Maui from Australia.  We can't be stingy on what we serve.

SO Sick of arguing about the buget.  I swear we sometimes really lose sight of what the whole day is about....

Ash61612

dear migraine,

go away. you made me grumpy last night which made me not comment to FI how well he cleaned the house for our OOT guests to see which hurt his feelings and he is still upset at me. I didn't sleep because of you and you are still here. go away. you are not wanted.

cabates1

Wow, his family should offer to kick in for these extra guests!   I would be so bummed too!  We are having a small intimate wedding too, 25 people, just immediate families.  I would not be happy at all if someone else changed our plan.

Urchin9

Two words: Teething Baby.

Poor princess is miserable! I hate not being able to make her better! I can't get anything done because I have to bounce her and carry her around or she will scream her head off. When she finally does nap, it's after nursing, so she falls asleep on my lap...and I'm too scared to move and wake her up. lol She's literally on my lap snoozing as i type!

melntaitt

Getting nervous but tomorrow is the day I put in my two week's notice. Just working up the nerve and feeling a bit sad about it...

daria24

I'm starting to worry about one of our cats. He was diagnosed with cancer last summer (it's a form of skin cancer, he has a tumor on his chin and it had already spread to him lymph nodes). We assumed he was going to decline quickly but for the first few months, he was acting pretty normal. His mood was the same as it's always been, same amount of energy (Which, he's 13...he didn't have much energy to begin with!). But in the past couples weeks he's been throwing up a lot more. He hasn't lost any weight yet though and otherwise he seems OK.

We are both just worried because FI's parents are going to take care of the cats while we are on our HM. We are scared a) that he's going to be sick and it sucks that his parents are going to have to deal with all of that and b) what if they have to put him down while we are away? I never had a pet growing up, this is my first experience with a pet dying and I just know I'm going to be a wreck. I love that little bastard. 

Janeash-crazy about your guests! This is why I always feel like parent/family guilt trips to add more people should always be squashed immediately. If you give in it just seems to create a lot more problems. It sucks that you are over budget, but I have to agree that you need to host beverages for your guests. 

DrPB2b13

I am SO burnt out on schoolwork for the semester.  I'm sick of reading, I'm sick of doing assignments, and I'm feeling really bad about the fact that I'm seriously just not putting in the effort I should or could be.  I really need a break to just decompress, but instead during spring break next week I'll be off to Brooklyn to teach in an elementary school.  Yeah, it'll be fun, but it's been a ton of work so far and there's a 15-30 page GROUP term paper when we get back, plus all of the rest of the papers I have to write for my other classes - UGH!

I am so ready to be done, all I want to do all day is focus on wedding stuff.  I don't even have reading done for class today because I did wedding stuff all day yesterday, instead....Sigh.

HarperBargo

Just feeling blah today! I'm super tired and can't keep my eyes open. I have a lot to do for work, wedding stuff, and personal stuff. Finding the motivation has been rather hard. Just blah!

diamondx423

I'm really mad at myself for making a HUGE mistake in lab. Sorry, non-science people, but I can't explain it better than this... I needed to mutate my DNA vector to add in a different cleavage site and it took months of work. It finally was done and I was thrilled; so I did an expression and purification and only saw my protein tag; no fusion protein. Went back to look at my vector, and I put in a frame shift mutation. SO SO SO STUPID! One freaking nucleotide too many, months wasted. And I'm too embarrassed to tell my boss why I need a new PCR primer, just hoping that he'll order it no questions asked.

AND FMIL is such a wench. I wish she would take a vow of silence or something.

MMRoberts11

Tara- that sucks!

I confess I'm loving the weather right now.  All my windows are open, I'm wearing shorts, and I'm really debating about going to a lake to go scuba diving.  Weather like this makes me really want to be out on/in the water.

peachykeen26

I am sick of arguing about a diamond.
My first diamond was 1.168ct and it was free.
Now, we have to buy one and FI doesn't want anything smaller than 1ct, which is pissing me off. It's not about the size dammit! It's about the freaking love behind it and the fact that WE DIDN'T GO INTO DEBT ABOUT IT!
I am just tired of it- I don't even want a freaking diamond anymore.

There was a HUGE storm last night so I was up in the middle of the night because of that and the dogs throwing fits. So, I am tired and grumpy. I am emotionally exhausted. And, just overall fed up.  Nothing in the office worked this morning and it's a darn good thing we are leaving early because I swear I may explode if we don't.

OVER IT!

Ash61612

hugs peachy

goodine11

I want this little girl to be quite. She can talk an entire class period.

Zimsgirl

Tara I'm sorry about your work! What'd fmil do now?

diamondx423

Peachy, I might have missed it, but why do you need a new diamond? I'd be pissed too about spending thousands of dollars on a stone right now; the money would need to fall from the sky for that to happen.


Katelyn, about 15 mins after FI posted on FB that the honeymoon was booked she called freaking out about money. If we didn't have the money saved for it, FMIL, how the heck would we have paid for it? Yes, its on a CC, but we paid off what was put on it already. I don't think its smart to book travel on a debit card incase they start charging random things then our cash gets tied up for weeks.

peachykeen26

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_therapy-thursday-3?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:1aca9a5e-c2b2-42a7-8691-851ef333b074Post:dafc2fcc-8292-4651-a423-66dba3f734d2">Re: Therapy Thursday</a>:
[QUOTE]hugs peachy
Posted by Ash61612[/QUOTE]

Ugh. Thanks.

peachykeen26

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_therapy-thursday-3?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:1aca9a5e-c2b2-42a7-8691-851ef333b074Post:b3722c16-508f-46d7-8395-e1f850884569">Re: Therapy Thursday</a>:
[QUOTE]Peachy, I might have missed it, but why do you need a new diamond? I'd be pissed too about spending thousands of dollars on a stone right now; the money would need to fall from the sky for that to happen. Katelyn, about 15 mins after FI posted on FB that the honeymoon was booked she called freaking out about money. If we didn't have the money saved for it, FMIL, how the heck would we have paid for it? Yes, its on a CC, but we paid off what was put on it already. I don't think its smart to book travel on a debit card incase they start charging random things then our cash gets tied up for weeks.
Posted by diamondx423[/QUOTE]

it is my aunt's and she wanted it back. My mother gave it to me and I just didn't have the heart to keep it as much as I wish I would have. I have these morals and I just couldn't keep it and fight for it even though it was a gift so legally, I didn't have to send it back.
So, we decided on a new cut, but FI isn't being stubborn and won't let me tell him I want about  .70ct diamond because it is in budget and I don't want to go above  .90ct.
But, he refuses to do anything under 1ct which is just too much money. He expects me to just fork over the money and I just can't with things that I have to do.
I want to grab him by the ears and make him listen to me. But, I think he is past reasoning. It's a good thing I have counseling tonight, but I may just snap.
Screwdrivers and daiquris after I get home? Yes, please!

michellep1

I want to vent about people being completely unrealistic!  My mother keeps trying to add things to our wedding, add people, etc.  Both my parents and FI's parents are contributing equal amounts to our wedding.  Fi's parents have been making payments directly to our reception hall since they are OOT and it came to almost exactly what they're contributing.  My mother is paying for things as they come up since she's local & at the time we worked this out I still lived with her, so it was easy to go to a meeting with a vendor with her & she wrote the check right then.

I sent my mother an email with all the balances left on the vendors she's paying for as well as when they're due.  Sort of like a statement - I'd definitely want to know where I stand if I was shelling out that kinda money.  So she calls me to tell me that I left out how much we owe on the florist.  I explained to her that I wrote it was undecided, BECAUSE IT IS!  We don't have a finite quote from our florist yet because we still need to meet to tell her exactly what we need.  She knows this, she was at the initial meeting.  She said she was just trying to get an idea of how much she had left to pay and if it was definitely going to come up to the $ amount she volunteered to contribute.  I informed her that it was DEFINITELY going to come up to that amount, that FI and I will have to chip in too because its just gotten out of control.

I then asked her if she was going to offer to split the rehearsal dinner with FI's parents since they're splitting the wedding, it only seems fair.  She went off on me about how FI's parents make 10x more than her and my father (true) and she doesn't have the money for that now that she knows the wedding is getting so expensive bla bla bla.  UHH NEWSFLASH MOM you invited 2x more people than FI's family so YOU'RE THE REASON the wedding is getting so expensive!! 

Then whenever we meet with a vendor she asks about how much it is to add extra stuff!  Our cake is included with our reception package - she asks the bakery how much a pastry tray would cost.  My grandma wants us to use her toasting flutes, she wants to buy us our own. Almost our entire guest list is OOT, she wants to do gift bags for them at the hotel.  Thats a few dollars per person and we're talking over 200 people!!!  She just has no concept of reality and it drives me insane!  I feel like usually the parent is the one trying to reign in the costs and bring everyone back to reality but this whole process its been me doing it and I'm so sick of it!!!

Vent over. 

diamondx423

Peachy that sucks =(  I'd for sure be drinking. My ring was inherited from FIs grandma (who is still alive, BTW, just divorced and didn't wear it) so if they asked for it back I would flip out.

littleluckypenny

Can my family STOP asking me about travel arrangements?!?!?!?  I'm about to shoot someone.  We are all adults who have traveled before.  Stop asking the bride, who is planning a wedding on her own, to make travel arrangement for you.  Get off your a$$ and look up your own tickets, hotel info, and map distances.  All info needed to make any decision you want is listed on the wedding webpage, including what airports, hotels, car rentals and distances.  They just choose to not use it and call me insead.

End of vent.

acaponi87

Ugh I hate elementary schools.
I have cramps and am a crankass.
I just want to drink beers outside.

janeash

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_therapy-thursday-3?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:1aca9a5e-c2b2-42a7-8691-851ef333b074Post:04ffe08a-d13c-41bb-82a1-cf472efb1cad">Re: Therapy Thursday</a>:
[QUOTE]Can my family STOP asking me about travel arrangements?!?!?!?  I'm about to shoot someone.  We are all adults who have traveled before.  Stop asking the bride, who is planning a wedding on her own, to make travel arrangement for you.  Get off your a$$ and look up your own tickets, hotel info, and map distances.  All info needed to make any decision you want is listed on the wedding webpage, including what airports, hotels, car rentals and distances.  They just choose to not use it and call me insead. End of vent.
Posted by littleluckypenny[/QUOTE]

<div>I can relate to this.  Just in case the bride doesn't already have enough to deal with....</div>

Zimsgirl

I'm sorry diamond that sucks :

amyl9

In Response to Re:Therapy Thursday:[QUOTE]Ugh I hate elementary schools.I have cramps and am a crankass.I just want to drink beers outside. Posted by acaponi87[/QUOTE]

Word. Mostly to the second part of 2 and all of 3. Alas...FI is working 3rd shift this month so he's sleeping now and will be gone later...and drinking alone isn't as much fun...or really a good idea for that matter...

I am over wedding planning. Seriously...it's not fun and is costing a lot of money/sleep/stress. FI cracks up at me because at least twice a day I say, I can't wait for this explitive wedding to be over." Haha. Don't get me wrong...I want to be married...but the antigirly/planner type that I am is now thinking I should have gone with my gut and eloped. Which is why I never post anymore. But this thread seemed appropriate today ;

Shelly527IN

In Response to <a href="http://forums.weddingchannel.com/main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_therapy-thursday-3?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:1aca9a5e-c2b2-42a7-8691-851ef333b074Post:2ca1e5f5-90fe-4b7f-bb25-64808588d295">Re: Therapy Thursday</a>:
[QUOTE]I'm starting to worry about one of our cats. He was diagnosed with cancer last summer (it's a form of skin cancer, he has a tumor on his chin and it had already spread to him lymph nodes). We assumed he was going to decline quickly but for the first few months, he was acting pretty normal. His mood was the same as it's always been, same amount of energy (Which, he's 13...he didn't have much energy to begin with!). But in the past couples weeks he's been throwing up a lot more. He hasn't lost any weight yet though and otherwise he seems OK. We are both just worried because FI's parents are going to take care of the cats while we are on our HM. We are scared a) that he's going to be sick and it sucks that his parents are going to have to deal with all of that and b) what if they have to put him down while we are away? I never had a pet growing up, this is my first experience with a pet dying and I just know I'm going to be a wreck. I love that little bastard.  Janeash-crazy about your guests! This is why I always feel like parent/family guilt trips to add more people should always be squashed immediately. If you give in it just seems to create a lot more problems. It sucks that you are over budget, but I have to agree that you need to host beverages for your guests. 
Posted by daria24[/QUOTE]


First of all, I'm so sorry your cat has cancer. I lost two cats to liver cats 14 months apart.  I didn't even reallize they were sick until about a week before they died when they stopped eating.  Has anything changed with your cat recently to make him throw up?  New food, hairballs, etc?  It may not even be related to the cancer.  I have a cat that throws up almost daily because he eats more than his stomach can hold.  Try some cat grass that Wal-mart sells.  It will help with cats' stomach problems.

I'm always sad to leave my pets when I have to go out of town.  I'm always afraid something will happend and I'll never see them again.  Silly to some, but I can't imagine how I'll be with human babies!

peachykeen26

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_therapy-thursday-3?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:1aca9a5e-c2b2-42a7-8691-851ef333b074Post:18b522d7-2104-4d74-b647-3e87c30bdf77">Re: Therapy Thursday</a>:
[QUOTE]Peachy that sucks =(  I'd for sure be drinking. My ring was inherited from FIs grandma (who is still alive, BTW, just divorced and didn't wear it) so if they asked for it back I would flip out.
Posted by diamondx423[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>I did. I went through this AWFUL depression and have been SO testy the past several days. I just can't stand it. I am not even close to me period either...... AGH!

</div>

Zimsgirl

I am so mad. I just checked my online bankig and my paycheck is not right! It's VERY off and I need to pay bills!

acaponi87

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_therapy-thursday-3?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:1aca9a5e-c2b2-42a7-8691-851ef333b074Post:3e63801e-4577-44c6-aa13-6bf8f87c7195">Re:Therapy Thursday</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re:Therapy Thursday: Word. Mostly to the second part of 2 and all of 3. Alas...FI is working 3rd shift this month so he's sleeping now and will be gone later...and drinking alone isn't as much fun...or really a good idea for that matter... I am over wedding planning. Seriously...it's not fun and is costing a lot of money/sleep/stress. FI cracks up at me because at least twice a day I say,<strong> I can't wait for this explitive wedding to be over." Haha. Don't get me wrong...I want to be married..</strong>.but the antigirly/planner type that I am is now thinking I should have gone with my gut and eloped. Which is why I never post anymore. But this thread seemed appropriate today ;
Posted by amyl9[/QUOTE]

That's my line!! I'm right there with you lol. At least the end is getting near..

daria24

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_therapy-thursday-3?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:1aca9a5e-c2b2-42a7-8691-851ef333b074Post:d9c97567-5e7c-4bdc-906d-05c46435a76c">Re: Therapy Thursday</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Therapy Thursday : First of all, I'm so sorry your cat has cancer. I lost two cats to liver cats 14 months apart.  I didn't even reallize they were sick until about a week before they died when they stopped eating.  Has anything changed with your cat recently to make him throw up?  New food, hairballs, etc?  It may not even be related to the cancer.  I have a cat that throws up almost daily because he eats more than his stomach can hold.  Try some cat grass that Wal-mart sells.  It will help with cats' stomach problems. I'm always sad to leave my pets when I have to go out of town.  I'm always afraid something will happend and I'll never see them again.  Silly to some, but I can't imagine how I'll be with human babies!
Posted by Shelly527IN[/QUOTE]

<div>I'll try the cat grass, nothing has really changed-same food, same amount of food, he's an indoor cat so his exposure to foreign things is pretty limited and he has a twin sister that is not tossing her cookies a few times a week. If he didn't have a superficial tumor on his chin we never would have even known he was sick. </div>

Shelly527IN

Lightning fried my TV and Wii last night.   Could have been worse I guess.