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Skittles612

So, I understand that the facebook page was cleaned up yesterday.  Even though I posted on that thread to stay in the group, I was deleted.  How do I get back in again??

diamondx423

you're not enough of a reg, no hard feelings, but after some crazies going crazy, we wanted to make sure we were comfortable with the people having access to our FB accounts

chelseamb11

(this applies to anyone no longer in the group/no longer with access to the group)
It's not that we don't like you.  We just don't know you well enough to feel comfortable giving you access to that much information about us.

SarahAlRamadhan

You have to have upwards of a thousand posts to make it on the fb club

Skittles612

wow. ok...

kathleenkmm

I never joined the FB group because I felt weird about putting that personal info about me out there, so I understand where y'all are coming from.

LoveYouB

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[QUOTE]So, I understand that the facebook page was cleaned up yesterday.  Even though I posted on that thread to stay in the group, I was deleted.  How do I get back in again??
Posted by Skittles612[/QUOTE]

Aww! That seems really rude IMO... I wonder if the group is still called June 2012 Knotties or whatever it was...bc that would be misleading if only a select group can be allowed in. I didnt go on that group much but I loved looking at the photos people posted. It seems like a better idea would have just been to drop the actual crazies, not everyone who joined bc we like this group on the Knot. Just my opinion though..

kelsey+brandon

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[QUOTE]In Response to Facebook... : Aww! That seems really rude IMO... I wonder if the group is still called June 2012 Knotties or whatever it was...bc that would be misleading if only a select group can be allowed in. I didnt go on that group much but I loved looking at the photos people posted. It seems like a better idea would have just been to drop the actual crazies, not everyone who joined bc we like this group on the Knot. Just my opinion though..
Posted by LoveYouB[/QUOTE]

<div>It's really not rude at all. We're just protecting ourselves. We didn't limit the group in the beginning and we let anyone join. There are a lot more personal things posted on the FB page that wouldn't be good if the entire world could see like they can here. The only people who were removed from the group were ones that didn't participate in the conversation. If all you want to do is lurk, then TK should be enough. Personally, I find it creepy that someone would want to know all of these personal details about our lives without posting yourself.</div><div>
</div><div>If that crazy Sarah girl could get Meg's personal info without being in the facebook group, I'm terrified to know what she would do if she had access. It's better to play it safe and have people think we're rude then to sacrifice our own safety, especially when you bring a person's child into things. </div>

Megbo2012

In Response to Re:Facebook...:[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Facebook...:In Response to Facebook... : Aww! That seems really rude IMO... I wonder if the group is still called June 2012 Knotties or whatever it was...bc that would be misleading if only a select group can be allowed in. I didnt go on that group much but I loved looking at the photos people posted. It seems like a better idea would have just been to drop the actual crazies, not everyone who joined bc we like this group on the Knot. Just my opinion though..Posted by LoveYouBIt's really not rude at all. We're just protecting ourselves. We didn't limit the group in the beginning and we let anyone join. There are a lot more personal things posted on the FB page that wouldn't be good if the entire world could see like they can here. The only people who were removed from the group were ones that didn't participate in the conversation. If all you want to do is lurk, then TK should be enough. Personally, I find it creepy that someone would want to know all of these personal details about our lives without posting yourself.If that crazy Sarah girl could get Meg's personal info without being in the facebook group, I'm terrified to know what she would do if she had access. It's better to play it safe and have people think we're rude then to sacrifice our own safety, especially when you bring a person's child into things.nbsp; Posted by kelseybrandon[/QUOTE]

Amen. Being in a FB group is a priveledge not a right. The knot is free and available to all. If you want to be involved in a Knottie fb group do bad make your own.

This isn't first grade.

chelseamb11

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re:Facebook...: Amen. Being in a FB group is a priveledge not a right. The knot is free and available to all. If you want to be involved in a Knottie fb group do bad make your own. This isn't first grade.
Posted by Megbo2012[/QUOTE]

This, and what Kelsey said.  There is still PLENTY that goes on here on TK so it's not like you don't have access to what's going on. 
There is nothing rude about us tightening up security.  Even if your FB is private, your full name (in most people's cases unless their FB name isn't their full name) shows, which makes it a million times easier to figure out who someone is and where they live.  It's just a classic case of crazy people ruining it for everyone. I know it sucks, but life sucks sometimes.  It's the internet.  For me, someone is either crazy or has the potential to be crazy until they can prove it to me otherwise.  Until then, you aren't getting access to my information.

This is like the foodswap on E all over again.

Skittles612

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Facebook... : It's really not rude at all. We're just protecting ourselves. We didn't limit the group in the beginning and we let anyone join. There are a lot more personal things posted on the FB page that wouldn't be good if the entire world could see like they can here. The only people who were removed from the group were ones that didn't participate in the conversation. <strong>If all you want to do is lurk, then TK should be enough. Personally, I find it creepy that someone would want to know all of these personal details about our lives without posting yourself</strong>. If that crazy Sarah girl could get Meg's personal info without being in the facebook group, I'm terrified to know what she would do if she had access. It's better to play it safe and have people think we're rude then to sacrifice our own safety, especially when you bring a person's child into things. 
Posted by kelsey+brandon[/QUOTE]

I don't understand why people would think that just because we don't post a lot means that we are crazy stalkers that go to your personal page to get all your information. I can say that not once did I visit anyone's facebook page ever.  I understand that people don't want their personal information out there. So maybe you should leave the group to protect your privacy and let the rest of us enjoy the knot facebook page?? There end vent and I will not discuss this again. I guess this is what I needed to realize that we aren't really that good of friends to share wedding info....

chelseamb11

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Facebook... : I don't understand why people would think that just because we don't post a lot means that we are crazy stalkers that go to your personal page to get all your information. I can say that not once did I visit anyone's facebook page ever.  I understand that people don't want their personal information out there. So maybe you should leave the group to protect your privacy and let the rest of us enjoy the knot facebook page?? There end vent and I will not discuss this again.<strong> I guess this is what I needed to realize that we aren't really that good of friends to share wedding info....</strong>
Posted by Skittles612[/QUOTE]

How can you expect someone to feel like a friend of yours if you never talk to them?  It's like sitting with a group of coworkers at lunch for MONTHS but never talking to them and only listening to them and being pissed when they don't ask you out for beers on a Friday night. 

Nobody said you're crazy if you don't post.  I get how knowing youreself, it's easy to wonder how anyone coud even suspect you of being crazy.  But we don't know you.  And we're not going to leave the FB group so that you can be a part of it.  If you want a more relaxed FB group, start one.  Anyone who is comfortable with linking their facebook to TK will join it, those who aren't will stay in the original group.

chelseakopperud

I dont think its rude at all. If you are just going to lurk then there is no reason you need to be on the FB page. There really isnt anything to discuss..... if we dont know you, we dont want you in the FB group- it is way too personal.

MiksChick23

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Facebook... : I don't understand why people would think that just because we don't post a lot means that we are crazy stalkers that go to your personal page to get all your information. I can say that not once did I visit anyone's facebook page ever.  I understand that people don't want their personal information out there. So maybe you should leave the group to protect your privacy and let the rest of us enjoy the knot facebook page?? There end vent and I will not discuss this again. <strong>I guess this is what I needed to realize that we aren't really that good of friends to share wedding info....</strong>
Posted by Skittles612[/QUOTE]

FWIW, we talk about a lot more than weddings. We don't think you're crazy, but the lunch example is exactly what we're getting at. You sit back and listen and learn but never share, so...its a little awkward.

cwill6212

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Facebook... : <strong>I don't understand why people would think that just because we don't post a lot means that we are crazy stalkers that go to your personal page to get all your information. I can say that not once did I visit anyone's facebook page ever.</strong>  I understand that people don't want their personal information out there. So maybe you should leave the group to protect your privacy and let the rest of us enjoy the knot facebook page?? There end vent and I will not discuss this again. I guess this is what I needed to realize that we aren't really that good of friends to share wedding info....
Posted by Skittles612[/QUOTE]

No one said you were visiting people's private FB pages. In all actuality, most people have their pages restricted until you actually are their "friend". But, what IS private information is the stuff we talked about, post and share on the FB page itself. We talk about our weddings, yes. But we also talk about personal stuff going on too... stuff that I would talk to my "friends" about but not some random person in the grocery store or on the other side of my work building who has never spoken to me before. That's the difference.

Megbo2012

Oh eff off. You aren't entitled to being on the page just because you like what people post. Contribute or GTFO. The fact that I have to explain this or argue is ridiculous.

Skittles612

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[QUOTE]Oh eff off. You aren't entitled to being on the page just because you like what people post. Contribute or GTFO. The fact that I have to explain this or argue is ridiculous.
Posted by Megbo2012[/QUOTE]

Obviously I'm the minority here so I must be wrong.  I apologize for bringing it up.  Especially to Meg sorry for offending you with the discussion and I will end it now.  I am very greatful for all of the help that you guys have given with my wedding.  I may not have posted a lot but you guys are very good about giving advice and offering your ideas.  It has been a great help in all the planning and getting through the stress (well hopefully getting through it...).  :)