So my friend just recently got engaged and we have been discussing this, and then I saw a big thread on it over on the Etiquette board. What is your policy for plus ones? I've seen that its ok to only invite those in LTRs or engaged/married with a plus one, or those that won't know anyone else at the wedding get a plus one. Then on the etiquette board they were basically saying oh everyone in any kind of relationship gets a plus-one, its not up to you to decide if its serious. So my question is, what about people who start dating someone a month before I sent out invitations? There's no way to get a handle on what other people are going to do, in order to get a handle on your guest list.
This is really stressing me out because my guest list right now is about 50% friends from college and most of them are neither engaged nor in a relationship, although you never know what will happen in the months to come. There's no way I could invite most of them with a plus one-for example if I invited all the girls from my sorority that I'm inviting with a plus one, it would cost me an extra $2,000-3,000 on their food/beverage alone-I can't afford that! Then you start thinking about the extra cost of centerpieces for the extra tables you'll need, the extra rental items, extra favors, etc., the costs just skyrocket! There are a few that are engaged/in very serious relationships, and I plan to invite their fiances/bfs, but is it tacky to not invite the other girls without plus-ones? They'll all know at least 20 other people there.
My guest list is already at 250, which I can't afford, but if I have to invite some people with plus-ones that I hadn't planned on inviting guests for, then I have to cut other people. I'd hate to cut my friends that mean a lot to me in order for my cousin to bring a girl hes been hooking up with.
Sorry this is so long, I just have no idea what to do!! I thought it best to post here instead of Etiquette or other boards, since they tend to eat you alive out there!
June 2012 Siggy: Favorite Engagement Picture!
