How are you ordering your wedding party?

michellep1

So I've been trying to figure out how my wedding party should stand and walk in to the reception and all this.  How are you doing it?  I have 2 MOHs, and then 4 bridesmaids, FI has 2 BM and 4 GMs.  My mother suggested doing it by height, or matching with the groomsmen based on relative height similarities to avoid hurt feelings (being the last one), but there is an issue (of course)!

My matron of honor is married to one of the groomsmen.  To avoid drama and make her happy, I was going to have her process out and walk into the reception with her husband.  She's by far the tallest bridesmaid and he is the shortest groomsman, so the height thing is kind of out the window.  My mom thinks that I should have her walk in with a best man so that everyone's status is the same, I think its just a little ridiculous - why can't the annoucer just say "Matron of Honor Jane Smith and Groomsman John Smith"?  What do you guys think? 

Either way I still need to put the rest of the girls in some sort of order to stand and march in and out.  How are you deciding what order to use?

Megbo2012

I always thought MOH went last.

peachykeen26

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[QUOTE]I always thought MOH went last.
Posted by Megbo2012[/QUOTE]

This.

HarperBargo

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[QUOTE]I always thought MOH went last.
Posted by Megbo2012[/QUOTE]

This. Also do you really think your WP will really care in which order they go? I have been a BM several times and I never gave it a second thought.

KrisKenny

My MOH will be walking in with BestMan, even though BM's wife is a BridesMaid. She will be walking in with a GM.

chelseakopperud

My MOH will go last.... everyone else can go in any order they want. I mean seriously.... who cares?

MiksChick23

Are you talking about ceremony or grand entrance? We are having the guys stand up at the alter and then the girls file in one by one for the ceremony. For the grand entrance, everyone is coming out 1 by 1 to their own theme music, ordered usher, usher, usher, gm 5, bm 5, gm 4, bm 4 etc. MOH will be last followed by us. Each person will hold a golf club and form an arc for us to go through when we are announced.

Also, in terms of being escorted, if you have a couple standing up, its not the end of the world if they don't walk together. No one is going to care, really. You'll want the MOH and BM closest to you for the ceremony, but the others order however you want, some people do height, some order them by closeness?

I don't know if I had a method persay, but I put my 3 best friends right by me (they happen to go tallest as MOH and down in height from there) then 2 FSILs at the end, who are both relatively tall. So its sort of like a V shape? Not that I did it on purpose that way, it just worked out. For guys, I put BM, FBIL and then my brother, and then our 2 friends. Kind of ranked by closeness, but they are all relatively the same height.

michellep1

I guess I didn't ask the question right, yes the MOHs will be going last when they walk into the ceremony.  I meant when everyone is standing up at the altar and then when they walk into the reception.

The reason I was thinking about it is because my DJ has all these online planning forms they want us to fill out and it asks for the bridesmaid's and groomsmen's names in the order that they are being announced.  I figured it'd be the same order that they were standing at the altar, so that's why I was trying to figure that out first.

I was simply asking for input on how everyone decided it since I have to decide it before we meet with the DJ this week.

kimiandgary

It didn't matter much to me, but it did to FI. He lined up his groomsmen how he wanted and then I matched my BM's to them based on height.

Obvi, MOH and BM will be next to us.

caitlintaylor07

I would probably ask her if it's a big deal. Mostly likely, it's not going to be. I would just have her walk with the best man per tradition... but it's your wedding! You can do it however you want to do it.

tgerl

I am planning on ordering them by height - with the exception of the MOH, who will walk right before me.

brittneyh4

I went based off of who I thought would handle the GMS best. FI made his order, and so I have it all ended up by height, not on purpose.

I don't see why a MOH can't walk with a GM. Just have them line up a little differently in the order. If you have programs they will know names and "status" if that's what you're worried about.. but guys probably won't care. If it were me in the wedding I wouldn't really care, but if would be nice to walk with FI.

michelletobin

I don't have the conflict of anyone being married with the GM, so we are doing it in order of status. MOH with BM, maid with GM in reference to relation, i.e.
My sister is the MOH and FI's oldest brother is BM
Then SIL is next BM with FI's younger brother
Cousin with Best Friend of groom
My friend with close friend of groom

So we went in order of family, then friends. I think you can do it however your comfortable.

Cassandra999

We have 3 couples in our WP so i tried to match up the couples. but it really doesnt matter because all they have to do is walk 50ft together.  We are not doing a WP dance.  Sort of in order of how close they are to us, but not exactly. 

MiksChick23

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[QUOTE]I guess I didn't ask the question right, yes the MOHs will be going last when they walk into the ceremony.  I meant when everyone is standing up at the altar and then when they walk into the reception. The reason I was thinking about it is because my DJ has all these online planning forms they want us to fill out and it asks for the bridesmaid's and groomsmen's names in the order that they are being announced.  I figured it'd be the same order that they were standing at the altar, so that's why I was trying to figure that out first. I was simply asking for input on how everyone decided it since I have to decide it before we meet with the DJ this week.
Posted by michellep1[/QUOTE]

I'd do them in the same order that you did for the ceremony, the BM/GM that are at the end would be announced first (following parents, ushers & PAs - if you have them) and then the MOH & Best Man are announced right before you and H who are brought out last. Ours are coming out 1 by 1 though, but if I were coupling them, I would just match them with the person they recessed with.

travistanya

In order of who is going out first:

"Junior" BM (future step-daughter) - No GM
BM (FI's sister) - GM (FI's uncle)
BM (my sister-in-law) - GM (my step-brother, married to this BM)
BM (my middle sister) - GM (my brother-in-law, married to this BM)
BM (my oldest sister) - GM (FI's brother)
MOH (best friend) - BM (FI's father)

We tried to go in order of family but I didn't want his sister to go before my sisters and I wanted the couples to walk together. FI didn't care if his uncle walked at the beginning so we put him down there. We are also having a rainbow colored wedding with each girl in a different colored dress so I put them in the order the dresses would look good in. Don't know if this helps any.

MMRoberts11

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[QUOTE]We have 3 couples in our WP so i tried to match up the couples. but it really doesnt matter because all they have to do is walk 50ft together.  We are not doing a WP dance.  Sort of in order of how close they are to us, but not exactly. 
Posted by Cassandra999[/QUOTE]

This is what I'm basically doing too.

Shelly527IN

I have one bridesmaid that is single and one groomsman that's single so they will be together.  MOH and BM will be together.